The girl I was seeing has just left me, as I can only get about 80% hard it’s been okay one time I’m still on 80% but was penetration
Ive contacted the drs as I feel like it’s more diet and no exercise resulting in low testosterone, as I’m the same when I’m at home alone so can’t be nerves when it’s just me ..
I’ve got some hims mints to try but unsure to tell her I’ve got these to try short term while I work on the long term
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I get the emotion around someone leaving over this type of an issue. As men, it’s gutting to think we’re somehow not enough. However, I’d also add: good riddance to a girl who would leave you over something like this. She isn’t the one for you.
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I agree. I was married to a woman who was overweight and couldn’t believe that I loved and desired her. She was convinced that my ed was because she was not enough for me. I didn’t understand my own issue at all. I was super embarrassed. For YEARS! It took a divorce after 24 years to find mojo. Read all the topics and responses. There’s lots of good stuff here. I realized that I have PED and a deathgrip - from going sneaky solo with porn for so many years.
The PED would not allow the meds that my Dr had prescribed work!
Keep up the work here.
Talk openly with your partner. It’ll work out.
Good luck man!!
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Hi. Going through this is shit but there is hope for us all. I know we are all different but I’d like to share how I’m overcoming these issues and maybe help others. Firstly I’m 55 so this maybe won’t be useful to younger men. Secondly the right partner is essential. Trying to overcome these issues with one night stands is going to be tricky. Then there is this app, breathing, exploring reasons and connecting all help. However be careful not to overdo it. There is more to life than erections! Lifestyle is essential, get fit, eat right and sleep. I discovered that fatigue plays a huge role in this. Then there are age expectations. Our bodies change and we can’t perform as we did in our twenties even with no issues. So be realistic. Then there is medication. I found using Viagra and now hims daily gave me confidence and did help. Once over that first hurdle things began to improve. My partner has been the main reason for the improvement. Taking away that level of embarrassment really kicks starts the recovery. We now set expectations and if things don’t happen we don’t really mind as we know they will. I’m not fully cured but a hell of a lot better. Some ejaculation issues now, as can’t come! But we will work through that in the same way. We have system that works and we can implement for every part of our relationship. Hope this will help someone. Keep the faith it takes time but it does get better.
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