I won’t lie, it makes me feel awkward. Both my ex-wife and the current woman I’m talking to seem to take it personally, bit this approach does make sense. In fact, the last few women I was with didn’t seem to make a big deal about it if it happened, which seems to mean it’s mostly men who think lf the penis as our only sex tool and inadverdently put the pressure on ourselves unnecessarily.
I’ve discussed it with my partner. It’s a bit awkward but it’s good to get the discussion out there
Embarrassed
I worry that it makes me look weak, which I know is ridiculous! I think because historically I haven’t had this issue before but because of health reasons I have been affected the last year or so. But owning the issue makes sense.
I feel good since being more open about if things have improved. It’s not always easy but it’s definitely something I want to continue to open up about.
This is definitely an issue as we tend to avoid the topic but when it does come up my partner teases me about it and not always in a good way. I definitely need to make clear that HOW we talk about my erection issues matters to me.
Most have said their okay with it, but it’s hard to let go of the fear they’re just placating… especially when trying to build a longer term relationship. Being gay, there’s all sorts of preconceived ideas about how things should go and it can be very scary to not get it up when the other person is rock hard and ready to go.
Currently have new partner it’s nerve racking
Cautious
I feel ok about it
It could be embarassing but a good parter would be understanding like my current one. Once its in the open, i feel a lot less pressure and my partner doesnt have to feel like shes doing something wrong. If i tell a new partner that and she doesnt take it well, i wouldnt want to be with her anyways
Yes, awkward, but I’ve done it, and I keep her up-to-date developments or let her know if she asks. It’s actually good to be able to talk to her about it… A relief.
For me my issue started when my partner and I began to have sex, so she has a stake in this, and I want to share with her.
She’s good about it, but at times thinks she is the cause of it, which she is not.
It’s been a touchy issue in the past, but I think I can do a better job of taking ownership. Gonna try again.
I’ve had this problem for a year or two now and subsequently had this conversation many times with my partner. I think it varies how she responds to the conversation based on whether I own it or not. Sometimes when I’m feeling really low I may subconsciously blame her through me words (“you don’t do this etc) and she gets really defensive and upset. Other times when it’s short, not too heavy and I just say “hey I’m not feeling too good about myself right now”, she’s really supportive. So it varies - she’s not a massive fan of the really heavy chats
It sucks
I just need to talk to them about it. I’d hate to have them feel it was somehow their fault
Ok ll
Fine
Hard conversation
Very scary but I guess it’s be better than hiding it