I’ve been married for 5 years and my erections have been hit or miss the whole time. My wife and I have strong communication but for us the challenge has actually been to talk about it in a more casual way. We tend to get too serious about it and then won’t want to try to have sex for a few days. I notice when we address it but treat it casually we are more likely to want to try to have sex again the next day.
I’m very grateful to have a supportive partner. She actually found the Mojo app for me in the first place! I often get frustrated about my sexual issues, and she encourages me to be more curious and less afraid to talk about sex and try new things.
It’s not been easy for sure. I’ve kind of always had the issue but had moments where it wasn’t a problem. You kind of just have to jump in. Sex frequency has been down for a couple of years, maybe longer. Told her I was considering medication. Then I tried this instead and have had great results. That may have given a boost.
I feel fairly comfortable having these conversations with my wife on occasion.
I felt better with my wife once I shared that post of myself. Ironically it helped me get strong boners afterward because the pressure was off.
No pressure at all
Women have been very understanding. My last experience I was SO anxious to say it but it was fine
I can easily talk about my erection issues. I find opening up and being honest really takes the strain off.
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I let current girlfriend know as soon as it looked like we were going to have our first bedroom time together. Full intercourse still hasn’t happened but we’re doing OK as a couple anyway and it feels like recent changes I’ve made to my diet and other habits will pay dividends shortly.
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I thought it was going to be a deal breaker and something that would push him away from me but he appreciated my vulnerability and it’s made our communication stronger
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Yeah I am convinced that if I bring it up I’m not getting another date
I’d obviously rather not but discussing it is way less awkward than pretending there’s no issue or otherwise ignoring it. It can become the elephant in the room.
I feel more and more comfortable to talks about my Ed, as I talk about it. The pressure on me drops drasticly, and it get’s better to my mind
It was weird at first, but she was ok to talk about it and it has made our connection even better
I have a friend that I’ve had pretty poor sex with in the past (due to my erection issues) but I’m seeing her again tomorrow night and I’m already nervous. The first time we had sex she was so encouraging but since when I’ve tried to mention it she doesn’t seem keen to discuss it so I think it’s just a massive turn off for her, which is obviously the last thing either of us wants. I’m unsure what to do
I never thought about it, too embarrassing maybe? But it makes sense, as I have learnt that being accountable at work and in life is great. So why not this too? And it shows you care enough to help yourself and trust in them.
Happy to share as it takes the pressure off.
A lot more comfortable now. I’ve been with my SO for over ten years and only really started experiencing performance anxiety recently. I felt a lot of shame, and I was worried that they might not want to be with me anymore. Be discussing what I was going through, I have felt more empowered and encouraged.
I’m working up towards telling her, although a lot of the time my issues are masked by medication usage which I haven’t told her about fully yet (she knows I have tried stuff). Sometimes I don’t use it and say I have an issue which does help so I am working towards owning it and working through it together.
We are talking about this and I’m sharing what I’ve learned through this program. She appreciates that I acknowledged the problem and am doing something about it… and we have enjoyed some great sex along the way. Personally, I am still struggling to relax and find the state of play… it still feels high stakes to me because sex is so important to our relationship.