I feel that I may let her down or that if we partipate and she gets naked it’s all for nothing
I’ve never tried to discuss erection issues with a partner; I’ve had so few partners. Now I have a girlfriend and I’m going to talk to her about it. I don’t think it will be hard to do because I really dig her and want to have great sex with her.
No issues at all discussing them, only worry that they maybe don’t understand why I have them, as I don’t come across as someone who does have them
Uncomfortable at best. I’ve tried bringing things up before and I end up feeling worse after it
It’s uncomfortable for sure. I still feel shame aboutit so as much as I try to talk about it and own my issue . I haven’t accepted it and it makes me feel uneasy. I’m working on the acceptance and on being comfortable with owning my feelings.
I’ve always avoided talking about it and that has never worked out to my benefit.
Incredibly uncomfortable discussing it. Worse when they take it as something they’ve done/not done and then instead of looking internally you have to comfort them that you’ve had a problem
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I learned that mentioning ED concerns well before play starts helps me relax after. this episode here made me think I could do this even better… by saying how I still enjoy sex play
I am in a two month relationship, and we discuss it every couple of weeks. I tell her the help that I am getting and that I am working to fix this. The conversations do usually happen in the bedroom, and I would like to feel more comfortable bringing them up not when we are both disappointed after a sex attempt.
I worry it might be a turnoff for her because it shows lack of sexual confidence.
Nervous, especially with a new partner or potential partner
Nervous, more weight on my shoulders, possibly even like I’m blaming or not taking accountability
I started off being super ashamed of not consistently being able to get hard, but the girl I was seeing was unbelievably understanding and constantly offered to “work through this together”. In some ways I still feel disappointed but knowing that she wasn’t really takes a lot of stress off the shoulders
I usually offer my, by now, well tree tongue.
Most of the times we had sex and 100% when we did penetration, my penis got soft and im defending myself with excuses or “dont know what happend but it’s soft” she tells me it’s a mental thing and as she usually gets orgasm in other ways she kinda understands and supports me. But i want to share my improvement and Talk Deep and long about this to improve our sex even more and stay hard alltime
I struggle with this. I’ve been on dates where bringing this up is a major mood killer. It kills the connection and the attraction. How do others feel about it?
Since I’ve started this programme it’s something we’ve discussed more, which takes a huge amount of pressure off me, and allows me to better explain how I’m feeling, which feels like it’s bringing us closer and making sex a more comfortable experience.
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I feel comfortable
It’s usually difficult and I try to avoid it. I find that only makes it worse.
It can be difficult but I feel at ease afterwards. It shouldn’t be as hard for me to bring it up