Stay open! She deserves to know what I’m going through and we’re stronger together
Not comfortable but will try
It’s a very nerve wracking situation, I would struggle to be as open and honest, because I don’t want to fully admit it to myself
I find it difficult - it feels like an admission of defeat. Often get told there’s no issue. Not sure whether he’s unaware of how much of an issue it is to me, or if he genuinely doesn’t see an issue.
It is difficult because it feels embarrassing. I’ve challenged this really early on, there’s been maybe a month with a few instances where it just isn’t working for me and only the other day I opened up about it and explained, unknowingly, with a lot of “I” phrases and me and my partner are navigating through it. She’s going to try a little bit more of the things I like such as touch.
I’ve also found myself spectatoring a little bit and cumming quite early on (never been a marathon guy but it’s quicker than usual) in the fear of losing an erection. I’ve now discovered through Mojo that spectatoring is what I’m doing and I’m aware of it.
So we’ve talked about it and it was uncomfortable and a little bit embarrassing but we’re going to work through it and I’m going to try some of the things I’ve learnt here and hopefully, in good time, they pay off.
It took me some time but I’ve grown comfortable with discussing it and sharing about it.
It’s super embarrassing but once it’s said out loud I always feel so much better.
Now in a long relationship I don’t have major issue discussing errection issue, but struggle to express my sexual desires.
I want to try anal sex and use dirty talk… bu don’t have the confidence to ask for those things, since I don’t always get anerrection, so how could I ask to be more exploratory
I’m open about it but we are not really discussing it and it’s a lot of you in the conversation. I would like to change this to using more I
I never realised that my PE issues stemmed from fear of losing an erection and then the spectatoring that came with that . Being aware of this and hearing other people have the ssaw issues has been helpful
I am uncomfortable discussing this issue, but I let them know anyway. I just tell them that I struggle when I first have sex with a new woman. It’s just part of the process.
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Im in a long term relationship and at ease with it now. My worry comes in that I have stopped having as much sex, because of the worry it brings.
It’s necessary to talk about this stuff with your partner! That way you don’t imagine that they have expectations of you, and you can’t disappoint them
Me and my partner are pretty open I would say, but when talking about it, I hear his feelings too and that makes me feel bad and it doesn’t help. I hear how he feels when I can’t get it up, and that is a very hard pill to swallow and makes me have even more pressure.
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I have a supportive partner but I can tell it takes a toll on her.
While she is very understanding at times, it has been over a year with the issue and I understand that she can’t always be gentle and understanding with it
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I’m actually almost excited to have the conversation. It sounds ridiculous right? The idea to get it out there and let them know that there might be a problem, maybe what you’re doing to try to change things and showing that you trust them to understand that it’s your issue but that you want to be intimate with them regardless. It’s kind of beautiful. Obviously if there was no problem it would be easier but everyone has problems. I can see how this could lead to a much stronger bond with your partner
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I’ve talked about it with her and showed her this app. She’s very understanding but for both of our sake I want to get better
I have always felt uncomfortable, like it makes me less of a man, so I have avoided it. But I’m realizing it is better to speak about it
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My wife is very open to the conversation around my issues.
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