I have been open about it with my girlfriend and we talked about ways I am working on it. I think it also helps her realize that it is nothing about her personally.
I’ve tried this in the past, sometimes it helps, and sometimes it doesn’t. The last time I did this I think I was taking it too seriously and things would up not going so well. Next time I will try adjusting the approach, own it and maybe be a bit more playful about it, less serious
Definitely stresses me out to communicate because of my young age, no one expects there to be any issue
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This was the one of the main reasons for me joining mojo, the ED issues make my wife felt like it was her fault and it was so painful that I summoned the courage to own it as my issue and that I wanted to do something about it. The app is definitely helping with ED and now I’m switching to trying to help my PE, which I also didn’t know was related. Communication is still a work in progress but the relief of getting my issue out in the open and owning it was really empowering and she felt so much better knowing it wasn’t her and wanting to help me overcome this as a result.
Getting more comfortable about it. They know the issues I have with PE sometimes and that I’m working through it. It does make things much easier and takes some of the weight off of me.
I’ve gotten used to telling my ex about it whenever it would happen. And she was understanding. I also learned to not put too much pressure on myself, although sometimes it still can make me feel very low and ashamed. With one night stands, I’ve learned to take more time, I have to FEEL like it to have sex. I just try to listen to my body. Not feel the neediness go rush to the finish line, but to be present.
I didn’t discuss it with my new girlfriend before hand, I wish I had as she got a bit upset about it the first time it happened. Since then I’ve been able to talk to her about it and she’s been really supportive which has in turn helped me. I wish I’d spoke about it sooner.
Awkward but i guess it makes sense since i have my own issues which i need to overcome and can’t do them all alone
I think it’s also a good screening technique, if they’re not willing to make any effort than they’re not worth being with.
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I statements
“I” statement theory was helpful reading that made a difference and could understand very well how communication is essential in sexual well being.
I’ve had very open conversations about it since the beginning and she has never made me feel bad or inadequate.
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Excited to try but it makes me nervous
I like the “I” statements and will try it
Communicating the lessons in this app with my partner had been very helpful.
Luckily me and my partner can be very open with eachother about sex stuff so I’ll definitely try these “I” statements and also make sure it’s not a serious conversation, it’s just chill
I am excited to give it a shot
Lately I have been communicating lately but I still need work. I will try the I statements
I’ve been communicating openly with my wife and we’ve worked together to take the pressure off of sex, but sometimes I still feel like she doesn’t want to try other forms of intimacy because it would just be frustrating.
I’m still a little nervous about it but I will try talking about it without making it too deep