Actually this is something I have been able to do in my new relationship. I can tell you that although I had every sort of fears regarding how the other person may take my performance anxiety, it actually made it better. She has been very understanding and empathetic. She also opened up about her struggles and fears and the connection is much deeper even only after a few dates.
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I am getting better at talking this through with my wife.
I was recently dating a girl who I had sex for the first time with last week. I climaxed within 10 seconds of intercourse. It happened again the next day. I felt so awkward and embarrassed. It would have felt different if I just explained about my performance and anxiety issues beforehand. This will be a useful skill to learn and use.
Already did discuss. Better to do than not to do but didn’t solve it yet
Right now with our 16 month old son we have limited opportunity to get down. The evening is our best shot but we can both just be fried from looking after him the whole day. We’ll be laying in bed and she’ll be yawning and I’m foggy headed and an hour prior we were flirting like mad and I was half hard and felt so ready. By the time we put him to bed an hour later it’s a different story.
I want to be better at communicating when I ask if she wants to fool around that it’s just that, it’s not “code” for full on sex.
And that my cock might not be semi erect like it was when she was dancing playfully on me an hour ago. And I want to tell her I’d like to just masturbate a little bit looking at her and get in a sexy space
And say look my guy (my penis) might be tired but could you put those panties on I really like? Could you caress your ass also while you look at me? Take the pressure off while at same time making it fun and sexy for us regardless of what happens
Basically I want to lead and expand what “sex” is for us and make it feel much more light and easy for us to fall into when we are both really tired but craving each other also.
A bit awkward but I believe it’s the right thing to do
Need to own it more, lack of that has really killed my drive
Really easy it’s never been a problem
They have already seen that I have been having these challenges so for me, the most challenging part is finding the time to have the discussions needed.
My wife obviously is well aware of the issues, and knows I am using this mojo app for recovery. But I totally need to be talking more about this with her and get things out in the open. This will definitely help speed things up with recovery
We discuss it, but mostly in a dismissive manner and never constructive. My partner usually encourages me as well when I say so, but I feel it’s mostly for their benefit
It is important so both can figure out what to do. Maybe some other foreplay or something can get the arousal flamed up.
It might be difficult. I’m still young and haven’t really got out but that really hasn’t stopped me from having hard conversations
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In my most recent encounter, I shared this somewhat with my partner but I wish I’d been even more specific. She was totally ok with it, very down to earth, very understanding and welcoming.
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Very difficult for me.
Its getting easier and easier. Therapy have helped a lot . Its so important to address the awkward topics
My partner has often brought my issues up after sex. Trying to open up before might allow us to problem solve while we are in a more receptive state.
My ex was understanding about my pe issue and always reassured me that it wasn’t a problem. I put a lot of pressure on myself to perform and get her to a orgasm but I wasn’t able to and she thought it was her fault. Reading and working with mojo has shown me that good and decisive communication is key and would have solved a lot of the problems.
Its new to me, but I know its a common thing, and I think its better to just talk about it, just by doing so, stress would be eased
I’ve had the discussion with my partner a few times but it has been challenging to talk about because I don’t feel like I get the support I need to confront the issue about staying hard.