Watching porn doesn’t desensitise you from actual sex.
watching porn stops you from making changes
Sec had to last 30 min or more and you have to be big
My kinks are bad, or wrong. And I shouldn’t have those desires.
I guess I’m surprised to discover that desensitization from years of porn use is apparently not a reason for erectile issues. It seems to come more from anxiety and unrealistic expectations. Like, it may take more time to achieve an erection in real-life sex. But my expectation is that it happens quickly and seamlessly like it would when I’m alone watching porn. And then that expectation leads to anxiety. And the anxiety leads to the real erection issues.
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I’ve always felt that I had to “live up to” the BBC myth, being a Man of color and hearing 'OMG it’s so big" is not really as flattering as you think. It conjures up thoughts and images. Like "How many dicks has she seen? Or thinking that her assessment is not genuine…smh…i
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That I should be well endowed, I have been told that I am and even that it is big enough to potentially hurt. I don’t really know many myths, maybe that’s because no one told me they are myths
I did think that porn was an underlying cause of my issues, but i also knew that even if that was the case it wasn’t the only reason. There were other reasons that i wasn’t even aware of, especially with catastrophizing everything in my head and making up things to go along with my problems. I currently do not watch porn as i still feel that it might hamper my progress but i want to do it with my wife just to turn us both on.
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You have to be able to get an erection immediately every time. If you can’t the girl immediately questions what’s going on. It’s ok it’s part of the process of sex for the penis to go up and down
That my constant watching of porn was causing my ed.
Watching porn makes it harder to get aroused or finish during sex with a partner
Watching porn isn’t affecting my ability to get hard
All men last as long as pornstars or you have to have a huge dick to pleasure a girl
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I always thought that watching porn negatively impacted my sex drive, its great to know that isnt the case.
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I’m moving away from porn purely to reconnect with touch and other senses other than sight. I do also think it must build excitement in a different way, even though the evidence here doesn’t support that. I think if the only time you get to see someone naked is when you’re about to fuck it makes it more exciting.
That my penis is smaller than most men’s. It isn’t on paper but porn makes me think I’m tiny.
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That not getting an erection right away is an issue
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That it has to be super kinky and have a massive amount of positions and be perfect and super intense the entire time. I want to enjoy it with a connection that feels genuine and not put on.
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Not really a myth but I wish I hadn’t been conditioned to find body hair so repulsive in myself or my partner. Nowadays I would never insist on or require a partner to have anything totally shaved or waxed, but it doesn’t change the way it affects my attraction
I cut porn out completely after i started putting off other duties to watch it ,initially i did notice a rise in sex drive but it soon dropped again to less than it was before ,after watching this i feel reassured its not going to impact my sex life if i keep it to a controlled amount
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Nothing re: porn, the research presented was helpful. I’ll still try to moderate my porn use though and try exploring some other categories. I have a very specific type that I watch be interested to know why.
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