Watching porn doesn’t desensitise you from actual sex.
watching porn stops you from making changes
Sec had to last 30 min or more and you have to be big
My kinks are bad, or wrong. And I shouldn’t have those desires.
I guess I’m surprised to discover that desensitization from years of porn use is apparently not a reason for erectile issues. It seems to come more from anxiety and unrealistic expectations. Like, it may take more time to achieve an erection in real-life sex. But my expectation is that it happens quickly and seamlessly like it would when I’m alone watching porn. And then that expectation leads to anxiety. And the anxiety leads to the real erection issues.
I’ve always felt that I had to “live up to” the BBC myth, being a Man of color and hearing 'OMG it’s so big" is not really as flattering as you think. It conjures up thoughts and images. Like "How many dicks has she seen? Or thinking that her assessment is not genuine…smh…i
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That I should be well endowed, I have been told that I am and even that it is big enough to potentially hurt. I don’t really know many myths, maybe that’s because no one told me they are myths
I did think that porn was an underlying cause of my issues, but i also knew that even if that was the case it wasn’t the only reason. There were other reasons that i wasn’t even aware of, especially with catastrophizing everything in my head and making up things to go along with my problems. I currently do not watch porn as i still feel that it might hamper my progress but i want to do it with my wife just to turn us both on.
You have to be able to get an erection immediately every time. If you can’t the girl immediately questions what’s going on. It’s ok it’s part of the process of sex for the penis to go up and down