Both critic and coach are me, I can’t imagine another person. The coach is a stern person not yelling but not compromising. He knows me as well or better than the critic but he hasn’t seen me in a long time.
My inner critic is a version of me that is perpetually criticizing everything I do and how I do it. My inner coach somehow manifested as the God from Monty Python and the Holy Grail, who commands my inner critic to stop whining and complaining. “Stop it! Go away! This man has a nice penis and wants to use it!” This is the kind of weird shit my mind makes up.
My inner critic sits on my shoulder or just outside my body, and says that I’m going to fail to cum, that I’ll embarrass myself, and things will be awful.
My coach knows that the critic is just trying to protect myself. That the negativity isn’t based on logic or fact, but wanting me to avoid a “bad” experience. My coach is firm, decisive and calm.
I’m really struggling to find my inner critic. Coming from a sports background I literally imagine a coach putting their arm around me to console and encourage me to go out and give it my best shot.
Darude Sandstorm
Inner critic: you WILL fail- you always have
inner coach: that’s a lie, you’ve succeeded many times before, and you will again!
Inner critic: your partner will think differently- does not think you will.
inner coach: Wrong- it was your partner that helped encourage you before to understand it’s not all black and white, that you have and will succeed again, and they will continue to support you.
Inner critic： this time u can or cannot
Coach： u can do it to me. U can do it. Come f me.
The inner critic kept saying “why are you still not getting hard given all the foreplay and stimulation? you are not going to get hard this time” The inner coach is a calm, rational me, responding “it’s because you made me in fight or flight mode, I know you are trying to protect me so thank you. But what you said is irrational. When you can enjoying you can get hard without problem, and every day when it’s morning or aroused you’re getting hard every time.”
My inner coach is the best version of myself, he’s logical and strong, he helps me to take the heaviness and darkness I feel inside of me and challenges my insecurities. It’s the person I want to become.
My inner critic was a bully and my inner coach was like my favorite teammate that showed up and told the bully to fuck off, lol.
The coach brushed the critic aside and said “You’re full of shit because this guy right here is a bad ass”.
Me and my inner critic are sitting at a small square table for 2 people. My inner coach is standing at the side of the table with both his hands on the table. They are both me.
My inner coach highlighted my strong suites and posivie past of being strong in the bedroom
My Inter coach was a previos therapist that I admire, and my inner critic was my dad. They were battling over if I was “good enough” or not, if I was going to make it or not. Wounds were hurting during this exercise.
i’m still not 100% sure how my inner critic and coach manifests in my head, but i think they both might be me or at least in my voice. my critic tells me that my girlfriend will leave me because i leave her unsatisfied, but my coach tells me that if my girlfriend really was unsatisfied by this point in the relationship then she would have moved on. my critic then follows up by saying she could just be with you for money, but my coach tells me that my girlfriend has already told me that she wouldn’t care if i didn’t spend that much money on her and that she understands if i’m under some financial burden, because what she really cares about is just being with me. but my critic responds to this by saying she could be lying to you, you never know. but my coach would say that that’s life, learning to trust someone and be vulnerable are 2 important parts of a healthy and successful relationship, and you can’t be in a good relationship like that if you continually hold doubts in your head as to loyalty or whatever else.
My critic is the grim reaper and my coach is a strong bearded Scottish man who is firmly telling the grim reaper to back off as he try’s to get closer to me.
The inner coach focused on the good that happened to counterpoint all the doubts and what if’s that the inner critic can bring up that morph into physical discomfort. The words of the coach did help the physical tenseness go away
Critic - you won’t be able to finish
Coach - he’s in your head mate, you’ll be fine just as you used to be
My inner critic says that I am no capable to love and make feel love to any woman. My inner coach says that I am a very sensible man, but extremely insecure, and he will show me the way to express my feelings
Inner coach is an inspirational person who is calm, witty, and confident. Inner critic is a hater, someone who is jealous, conniving and ill intentioned. Inner coach defends and boosts my confidence, and reassures me with humor and wit while the inner critic attempts to taunt.
My inner coach is someone real in my life who I admire a lot. He always has my back and supports me to be better every day. He laughs at my inner critic, argues with logic and compassion almost treating him like a scared little boy who is simply afraid