Just repeated that I am confident, strong and at ease with myself. My inner coach was in my voice and the inner critic was not. The inner critic was a meager and in accurate pesky nothing.
You are soft and you will fail because of it. You are afraid to lose and will lose because of it.
You are a good man and it’s ok to let go and enjoy the gift you have been given. She stands by your side no matter and she is fulfilled in every other way by you. She loves you.
The inner critic is the constant reminder of not being good enough, ever since childhood. Basically it’s my mother speaking through my voice. The inner coach is Henry Rollins. Let’s do this!
My inner coach. He is a good friend that has known me for nearly 40 years and has always been supportive. He is a big guy, with a strong voice and he is very straight forward. Most of all he gets angry when bad stuff happens to me and gives me great advice to make sure I see things clearly.
A strong, Italian man. Very confident in me and protective.
My inner coach is here to help me, it tells me that I am sexy and I am enough and I deserve pleasure, my inner critic is afraid but knows it’s irrational
My inner coach is the me i inspire to be , who I’m striving to be. My inner critic is all the parts of myself oldself that I hate.
Inner critic - you need to worry about your penis because it’s not working.
Inner coach - Mojo has taught you that this is thought is just a manifestation caused by trauma from your first bad experience with losing an erection. All this thought does is feed my problem and make it worse. There have been lots of times that you have had hard erections without putting any thought into it at all. This worry will only feed this problem, not fix it.
I pictured my inner critic as a comedian like Nikki Glaser, which I think spoke to my fear of being mocked for having sexual issues and especially a fear of being mocked by women. My girlfriend has talked with her coworkers about me having sexual issues, and it sounds like the response to a few things has been laughter. For the inner coach, I tried to picture Ted Lasso, going with the eternal optimism and trying to “BELIEVE!” in myself as a person no matter where I’m at in this process.
My inner coach is confident and authoritative. He reminds me of Mufasa from the Lion King. Logical, protective and kind.
My inner coach is confident, kind and protective. He is Mufasa from the Lion King. He wants me to be the best me possible, and not to let my negative thoughts dictate how I engage with the world.
Inner coach made me relax and not worry, it’ll be fine & I’ll be back like I used to be
My inner critic was a feeling it was that feeling of dread telling me I’m just gonna get soft again. My inner coach is firm, supportive, showing the evidence of I can get hard and I have done & to not be so hard on myself, that I’m doing alright
My inner coach is a friend, telling me how well I have actually been at sex most of the time and how much my partner desires me and reminding me of the facts. He brings me back into perspective and allows me to see how irrational my inner critic is.
My inner critic is a little worm who says “it’s going to happen again, just like it always does” and my inner coach is a proud and powerful lion who confidently replies “untrue”
My inner coach is this big guy and my inner critics is the kinda small but really annoying guy everybody knows. My coach is letting me know we can do it as we have done it before.
Funnily, my inner critic reminded me a lot of my brother. I’ve found it difficult to build a good relationship with him because I’ve often found him to be quite belligerent and pessimistic. My inner coach reminded me of me at my best. When someone else’s negativity can’t touch me and I have a calm knowledge of what I’m going for and confidence in my ability to get there. The critic made me want to curl up and hang my head, but the coach was like having the sun in my face. It made me want to open myself up to it, raise my head and stand tall.
Inner critic: you’re going to fail
Inner coach: you have sex all the time, you want this, it’s good for you
Critic: you cannot do it. Coach: do not believe it.
Critic: shut up. Coach: you can do it!
My inner critic said “why did you do this to me?”. He was me looking angry and sad. Behind him was a memory of the first time I ever experienced not having an erection. I felt guilt an remorse for putting myself in that situation years ago and not acting sooner to heal.
My inner coach appeared and agreed with the inner critic that moment was painful and we didn’t know better at the time. However, the individual that I was having sex with didn’t respect me and caused me a lot of anxiety. My coach proceeded to mention how I have had sex with many other guys who did respect me, were very attracted to me, and were supportive of any issues. The scene I liked imagining them both talking was at a bar lounge in a booth. It’s less scary watching my critic sit comfortably instead of standing looking ravage and angry. I look forward to having more conversations between the two. Very interesting seeing my critic in this way and hearing how they feel about me.
Critic: you are a going to fail again
Coach: you are working on yourself and have seen progress keep going