The inner critic questions if I can keep it hard and if I can’t, why would she ever want to be with me.
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Inner critic makes me question whether she will really want to have sex tonight. What if I try to initiate and she says no, and I’ve upset her by asking? And if we do go ahead, will I manage to satisfy her (and me)?
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It’s silent, creeping doubt and dread. Even a slight lapse in my want feels like a landslide and a failure
Anxious , nervous, feeling of failure and hopelessness self disappointment.
I wouldn’t say I’m critical but more so worried, preoccupied and anxious about getting an erection. At times, it’s not terribly invasive and other times it can be overwhelming.
Spiteful, pointed and mocking
Inadequate uncertainty anxious
Instead of looking forward to having fun, my inner critic forces me to think that I better get hard and stay hard or else she’ll think I’m not man enough and eventually leave me or never meet me again.
Rather than be in the moment and let my mind be free during sex I am only focused on how I can or can’t perform
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Makes me feel numb and disconnected from the situation, eager to please but makes it very hard to feel sensations and stay in the moment… Then my body follows suit and then I am not able to engage how I wish I could.
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It’s a constant feeling that something bad is going to happen or I will ruin something. It can be something completely illogical like my phone somehow coming out of my pocket and falling down the drain I’m walking over
You’re a fat loser. You havens been able to satisfy your wife for years, maybe never. Good luck keeping. and holding an erection.
It sounds like my wife’s constant rejection of intimacy
It sounds like a lot of self-doubt. Things like my physical appearance, the decline of intimacy in my relationship, my seeming inability to maintain any sort of stamina on the rare occasions I do have sex. That breeds feelings of inadequacy, just a general sense of not doing enough, not being enough.
My partner is leagues above me professionally and aesthetically. The one thing I’m supposed to be good at is intimacy in the bedroom and emotionally. I’m constantly falling short of her expectations that I’ve put on myself. She doesn’t put the expectations on me.
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It felt like my inner critic had ghosted me … Attempted the interaction again and it was calm and silent then I had a visual of me standing at the foot trying to get an erection but failing, whilst my partner is ready and waiting for me.
You wont be able to cum without porn so dont even try
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The feeling of being excited for sex only lasts for the first few moments before foreplay and then the self-doubt starts. I’m not good enough, I’m not big enough, I won’t last long enough, I won’t stay hard and I’ll disappoint her. My girlfriend has not once ever told me she was disappointed in me, but I’m constantly afraid that I am letting her down.
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I only get hard in the beginning, and the moment I enter her I get worried I won’t be able to keep it, which makes it soft
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shes much older than me and more experienced, i need to satisfy her and not cum so fast.