My inner critic is my voice telling me this is just not going to happen. Scares me from it. Tells me I may not be good enough and would be judged on my performance, but also wants to me to totally do the best which turns up the pressure.
Ask my questions like, are you erect? Are you erect enough?
You’re not going to get erect.
I tell myself she’s disappointed. She’s upset. She won’t like me anymore
My inner critic is my imagination. Laying out how things will go wrong and I’ll fuck it up.
My inner critic is a little weasel. He’s more prevalent than I realize. Need more of the real me.
My inner critic is a spy!
I see my inner critic as myself, only that I am dressed up in very fancy and expensive clothes. He tells me, in a disappointing and frustrated tone, that I won’t be able to get it up and that the girl isn’t going to find pleasure in sex with me
My inner critic is always doubting my erections and wether or not I’m going to stay hard.
My inner critic reminds me of what happened in times before: “Remember, how that experience went? You lost your erection. What makes you think this experience is going to be any different?”.
I’ve only just started having this issue, previous partner first time sex didn’t work so well, then I stopped jerking off and watching porn so much. Then the erections levelled out to functional. Sex was pretty great. This new partner seems to have never encountered a guy with ED and seems to have no idea that it exists and also feels like she’s frustrated with the sex, even though I made sure I got her to orgasm 2x in two nights of sex. Feels like a lot of pressure and not a lot of understanding from her. I will have to sit her down and explain that pressue isn’t going to help me. Understanding and a bit of time and exploration would help I think.
It’s really more of a form of trembling at a possible outcome that often comes true.
My inner critic is being so focused on trying to stay erect that I start over analyzing and lose focus on enjoying the moment.
I don’t tend to hear a voice. I just put pressure on myself to try and stay hard. I’m scared that if I relax then I’ll lose the erection. It makes me want to do the deed as fast as possible and god forbid that she wants to try different and awkward positions. When it does happen she asks me over and over again what happened badgering me about it. I don’t know exactly but I’m here to try and improve it
Dude… Wtf… Get it together… There she is and she wants you… FOCUS DAMNIT! You’re going to make her think she isn’t good enough herself… She will think you aren’t attracted to her… You have GOT to deliver this time, you have to show her you want her, and that your worth being wanted by her! She won’t try again if you don’t champ this, then you are never gonna be the man she needs, she won’t want you anymore…
It’s a feeling in my stomach as much as in my head.
It sounds like me. It sounds urgent. It’s condescending and unforgiving. It tells me what I can’t do, what I’m not allowed to do.
It’s a frustrated voice. It’s a childish and frustrated version of me that tells me what I’m meant to do and feel. It abuses me when I do not feel what it tells me to do.
You shouldn’t be masturbating. You’re not going to get hard in a few days.
You didn’t get hard last night. Are to going to be able to stay hard tonight? She’s not going to enjoy being with your soft cock so you better get it up!
Wait, am I hard now? I can’t tell! I’m afraid to check and ask because she’ll see me as unconfident!
Should I put it in now? Oh look, I’m going soft. Look at her face. She’s just pretending that she’s enjoying herself but she’s waiting… she’s doubting her own attractiveness because of you. Maybe you should just stop it and end her misery. Just use your fingers because it’s getting awkward now. Say something witty to show that you’re enjoying yourself but that this isn’t working but also that you find her attractive… she knows though. She’s not saying anything but she’s upset. She knows she’s had another disappointing night.
When are you going to stop self sabotaging yourself?
I realize the voice talks at me in second person when it’s particularly negative, as if I’m detached from my body. I need to reconnect with my body at these times.
my inner crictic isnt always there but suudenly appears out of nowhere and I cant control it.
Its my partner, but even more so lately, I feel I cant please her, even if she hasnt given me any sign that shes displeased but since shes had an affair that still is in the back of my mind. Ive even taken pills, not viagra but stimuloid and ejaculoid so then Its so intense from that stuff that I go real fast. I just wish she would still do blowjobs. But I can only guess how shes freling and what shes thinking. So, I try to focus on not rushing but whst can I do to make it better, and then I start getting soft cause it just isnt turning me on. =/
My inner critic tells me I’m going to lose it, and that i should go as fast as I can to cum before I lose it.
I have just realised my inner critic dresses really badly… he looks a bit like Jesse Pinkman from Breaking Bad.
That I’m soft, don’t cum without fucking her
My inner critique is a little virgin dweeb who wears a bad tracksuit