My inner critic sounds like me, a worm in the back of my mind warning me not to mess it up. Have to hurry and try to finish as soon as possible or else.
My inner critic is more a voice, but it is is not my owe. It sounds more coldly rational, matter of factly, disturbingly certain. He gets louder the closer I get to sex, as he if he already knows the future. During the act, it’s as if I am bystander, trying protect myself from myself - The beauty of the act dissipates and magic dies as quickly as it begins.
Imagining having sex tonight, having to do it at a specific time, made my body go cold. I had to start thinking about the breathing exercises because the anxiety hit me like a wave.
My inner critic scrambles ohhhh shit as I try to force myself to get hard
My mind tells me that my current relationship and any relationships in the future will fail because of my erection issues. I will never find love because sex is required in a relationship. My inner voice is also constantly examining my penis and making remarks on it in the moment before sex. I say things like “oh god please stay hard and don’t lose your erection” or “you can just say your not feeling it to her because you obviously won’t be hard”.
He is so much better than you. Why is he with you? You’re not going to get hard and not going to please him.
My inner critic have my voice and remind me how wrong it is to be gay based in religion and my mom’s opinion. It try to make me wonder what she wold say if she sees me in that position. Horrible felling.
My inner critic sits on my shoulder and tells me to worry / panic about not being able to reach orgasm. Makes me think I’m not a real man if I can’t do “normal” things. Builds up my anxiety levels and then follows a mental game of back and forth chatter
My inner critic just tells me I can’t satisfy my girlfriend. He tells me that I’m not good enough and never will be. He tells me that I won’t ever be able to get hard again. He tells me that I won’t ever feel like I did before I had erection problems. My inner critic gives me a lot of intrusive thoughts that I wish would stop.
My inner critic is my own voice, but a silent worm that controls my mind right before and during sex. When having sex, if I can get it up, it becomes a mind game of “how long can I keep this going?” “How long should I fuck before I tell her I’m not going to cum”. “Here we go again, tell her it’s not you it’s me”. I am so focused on pleasuring this other person that if I ever even felt like cumming, I’d likely suppress it and lose it in an attempt to go longer… at that point… I may not ever feel like I am going to climax for the rest of that sexual encounter.
My inner critic wants to get things over with before I screw them up. He keeps telling me not to think, which makes me think more
I hear my own voice. At times trying to hype me up, telling me I got this, and then saying if I don’t get hard, that’s another strike against me. Then I start getting anxious and stressed and wanting to avoid the situation all together.
In the moment I just hear myself saying “come on, what’s wrong with you”
And if I get up and we start having sex, I have to keep the sensation intense enough to break through my thoughts or my inner voice will take over and I’ll go flat.
My inner critic tells me to be more aware
Really whatever my inner critic is is pretty accurate it’s not another person it’s actually my mind telling me probably what’s going to happen
My inner critic is just me over thinking, I believe. It will feel like a little devil on my shoulder. 'Don’t masterbate, don’t watch porn" and as a Christian, this is something that I’m working to totally avoid. Another voice is encouraging me that I’ve got this. It’s a constant battlefield of the mind. However, I choose who lead me. Whether its the critic or my good conscience, I ultimately get to choose. It’s never going to go away but Mojo gives us tools to manage these issues. Cheers and best wishes to all. We are not alone.
My inner critic is a different version of myself that likes to live in my head as the devils advocate to everything. It likes to think the worst. When it pops up in, it lingers
My inner critic feels like me but mean. Demanding and controlling. I’ll be in bed with a girl I find very attractive and we start making out. Everything is fine. I treat her. But now it’s really time. And just like that I can feel him like he’s peeking through the window or standing over my shoulder. Telling me that I know what will happen as soon as I make a move to have sex. I know it won’t happen and he just shames me. Makes me feel like I’m nothing. So, I distract and deflect. Say I’m tired and it’s late. We should probably get some sleep. Hoping that next time will be the time. When I know my critic is going to be there again saying the same shit. Tearing me down instead of building me up. Deep down I know it shouldn’t matter at all and I should just have fun but I just can’t seem to ignore him. I could have fucking Madison Beer in my bed and I couldn’t keep my erection once my pants come off and it’s really time.
Reading these have been such a relief to know it’s not just me. I feel my whole adult life I’ve been plagued with some sort of performance anxiety. Usually it took the form of P.E which, while annoying, can usually be mitigated or justified.
I just recently started having erectile issues with my partner of close to a year. She means the WORLD to me. I put a lot of pressure on myself to satisfy her, and my years of porn (over) consumption I believe has distorted my reality as to what healthy sex is like. So when I don’t perform like they do in the movies I feel shame. This pressure, along with just my general anxiety has mounted up too much for me. I’m glad to be here and finally get help.
my inner critic is like a cloud, cant really see him but hes there. He pretty much only focuses on my erection issues and the fact that i wont be able to please a woman and leave her dissatisfied. My inner critic is small, smaller than me, and he hides away. I think this is a sign.
Feeling a little self conscious about my physique, since partner is extremely fit.