It certainly used to be a cope to watch porn and jerk off for instant relief. I think now it will be a tool for the days I really want it, or to try and dream up new fantasies
It’s soothing sometimes. I’ve also used it to focus on the sensations of what it feels like to have an erection easily. I’ve also used it to get an erection, then switch to my imagination and fantasy to finish.
It’s certainly a coping mechanism. The video on the sexual anxiety issues are a big contributor to it for me. I feel like the more I stress about finishing too quickly and the more research I do on it it seems like I am more drawn to porn
It’s interesting that the brain doesn’t respond to porn viewing in a way that would suggest addiction. Also watching porn drives home that solo sex can be less anxiety provoking than partnered sex.
I am not addicted, but I have the habit to watch porn while masturbating. This is a big issue for some of the exercises here which require not watching porn to get it up. It will be good to have some exercises how to overcome this problem.
I tend to go down a gross rabbit hole when I watch porn. I start off with categories that are widely viewed, and end up in weird areas of porn that are very taboo and disturbing to my mind. the thought of the shame is kinky and can turn me on, but often I feel horrible watching it. I quit porn and solo maturation about a month ago, and I feel great. I like the feeling of looking to someone else for release. I like the feeling of putting my energy into something that makes me feel good instead of sitting in a dark room and jacking off.
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My perception of porn might be a greater hindrance than porn itself
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I tend to feel pretty guilty about watching porn. I’d rather be having actual sex
That I don’t have to feel ashamed about watching porn
Porn can exacerbate sexual anxiety by promoting unrealistic expectations
Porn can put unrealistic thoughts about the female body as well as performance
I have watched porn since the internet became available and enjoyed masterbating and using it to form my own fantasies. But its use became more urgent when my partner stopped having sex with me… it was my way of having sex and I felt guilty for watching it and frustrated that it was the closest I would get to having real sex. Over the course of a few years my ability to get erect started to reduce as I watched porn and after I had cum my inner critic would say things like ‘well at least that’s over with now’ or ‘that’s what replaces your sex life is for the rest of your life’ . I now rarely get fully erect while watching porn, and very rarely get erect at all. Strangely, since using this app, I’ve recently started reading erotic literature and have got harder than when watching porn… still not rock hard but at least it looks like an erection! Maybe I should stop using porn for a while.
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Porn can feed sexual anxiety
I started watching porn at a young age and I feel like it warped my expectations of sex. As I was growing up rather than experimenting with actual sex, I always relied on porn because it was “safer.” These days after I broke up with my ex, I got hung up on some fantasies that I wanted to play out with her, that I won’t have the opportunity to do, so I used porn to play that out. I’ve always recognized my habits aren’t great. I know that I feel better when I don’t watch it, and if I do watch it, I feel almost compelled to cum, so staying away is best for me - but I need to cut back slowly rather than quit cold turkey.
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That porn is typically self-pleasure which is a less pressured situation and thus I have situational erection issues
That I need to keep an eye out not to watch porn over a prolonged period. For me it’s probably better to set a time limit and to cum within that time.
I have watched porn when I’m very stressed - i feel guilty if I watch it. I would like to explore watching soft porn with my partner as a form of joint arousal and limit it only to that - to make it an enjoyable experience and not something I do in secret
That porn doesn’t light up cravings quite like drugs, and it’s ok and healthy to enjoy porn if it doesn’t have negative effects on my life
My porn habit has been compulsive to relieve stress, it has been my way since 11 years old to calm my mind and get out of my head. It did make me not interact with others of my age and get through some of the difficult hurdles of dating because it was easier but ai did in the end, and now I’m facing it down and I don’t think I want to completely cut my self off, I want to not harm myself with it anymore
That porn gives false impressions that sex should last a long time and should be centered around penetration.