To dig deep within you and understand what relationship you have with porn. That will give a start to why you are feeling bad about it.
I’m watching something on Netflix and I see someone slightly sexy, the next moment I find myself on instegram and of course the algorithms show me amazing girls, then something pops to my mind ah how would that look in sex, then I find myself in porn site and find my hand doing the death grip.
I don’t think porn is a problem if I choose to watch it and masturbate in a nice way but most of the time I open it pretty subconsciously and masturbate only to finish quickly. That is causing me problems as the same pathway kicks in when I’m with a girl
I definitely fall into the category of having no erection trouble on my own (with or without porn) and then it’s an issue with any partner. Want to delve into my feelings of fear and shame.
For me its more shameful but every now and then tend to go back.
That I rarely, if ever, feel as satisfied after porn, as I can remember being after sex with someone
That I enjoy my alone time with porn, but I shouldn’t allow it to take centre stage in my sex life
I prefer my imagination personally
Porn doesn’t pricier a chemical dependency!
If used, it should be used mindfully.
Average sex is 2-8mins! Had no idea about that
Wait average sex is how long? Boys we might be in the clear here hold up 
Jokes aside though I really do want to learn to accept my porn and fantasies/kinks without shame and understand that fantasy isn’t reality and it’s ok to be into things and that it doesn’t mean you want to necessarily go out and do every thing you see/hear/read in porn
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It’s not an addiction and it’s all mostly fake. Makes it sound like the sex I’m having isn’t as boring and short as I thought it was comparing it to porn.
I didn’t know that porn addiction isn’t recognised by leading bodies and I didn’t know that the average time range for sex is 2-8 mins. I think I feel better about my porn use. Maybe just choosing when I use it rather than how often. It’s probably also helpful to investigate feelings of shame around masturbation.
It’s often used to stop boredom or relieve stress and I don’t want that.
I definitely use it to self soothe. It seems compulsive to me.
I tend to watch it after a night of drinking or in bed, I use a cream to help with my tight foreskin and have a tendency to use porn to get it hard quicker
The thing I enjoy most in porn is the woman reaching orgasm and it causes me to hyper focus on this when engaging in sex, reducing my presence and enjoyment.
I use it because it feels low pressure no requirement to perform for anyone apart from myself. Plus I can vary my choices based on my mood without any judgement.
Porn is highly edited so don’t feel like porn is a true picture of how sex truly is or should be!
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Have shame over my porn selection and sometimes apply the same pressure to masturbarion and porn as I do to sex