I feel like porn is just my go to since I have no romance going on in my real life, and I feel porn might be the cause to my E.D. issues, so I spin I place in a viscous cycle. Using porn and staying with porn because I’m afraid I can’t perform.
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I watched porn just about every day for 15 years and a few years ago I noticed I started having erection issues. I had the hardest time stopping watching porn. I finally have now years later, I thought maybe initially that it helped my sex drive and erections but now I’m still having erection and sex drive problems with my partner, so maybe I’ll go back to porn?
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I’ve watched porn consistently since I was a teenager, I think it was a way to compensate for not being very tall or sporty, and having no romantic attention in any of my social groups. I don’t think the amount and type of porn I watch is normal, and I think it has gotten worse over time. I’m almost 30 now and I have some anxiety that I’ve missed the window to learn how to be good at sex and dating.
porn has been a problem for me for almost a year now. it has both positive and negative aspects, but the negatives have started to outweigh the positives. it’s too easy to get the dopamine release and my dopamine system feels fried. i’m only 21 and my sex drive is relatively low. even masturbating sometimes i can’t get completely hard, and i rarely wake up with an erection now. i just want my sex drive back
I first got into porn when I was 13, im 34 now, so I’ve been looking at it for over 20 years now. I also grew up very religious and I always believed porn was a bad thing to do and the only reason I did it was to cope with pain and distress, basically I saw it on par with narcotic drugs.
Over the last year or so I’ve come to accept that I genuinely enjoy porn and that it’s not a bad thing to enjoy, it doesn’t make me a bad person to enjoy it. Through a variety of sex positive resources i actually see the way porn can be a valuable thing for a person who enjoys it.
The issue I’m struggling with now is that I continue to watch porn on a nearly daily basis in secret. I’ve been with my partner for four years, we’ve lived together for two. We have what I think is a really healthy relationship in almost every area of life together, except when it comes to sex. Both of us have a lot of sex shame we’re working through and don’t know how to talk about it together. She’s aware that porn has been a part of my life through different seasons, but we haven’t talked about my porn use since before we started living together. I don’t know how to initiate sex with her and she only imitates it with me about once a month. I feel embarrassed and ashamed for keeping my porn habitats secret from her, and I want to know how to be honest with her about where I’m at, what I want, and feel confident in creating a fun and fulfilling sex life with her.
I think a more balanced relationship between masturbation and solo sex would be healthy for me. I don’t necessarily lean on traditional porn, but do view a lot of images that are sexually explicit or exciting for arousal. I probably could use a little break.
I’ve been watching porn since i was 15. I am now 27 and have been masturbating to it at least 3 times a week. My religion is completely against it which is why im shameful of addressing this because i know im not supposed to do this. I thought getting married would help in this issue (wasnt the only reason i did btw) however after almost 2 years of being together and stopping completely, i slowly saw myself getting back into it as my performance in sex was very low due to my erection issues and affecting my partner and the thought of still wanting to orgasm and knowing that i always can during masturbation brought me back. I do enjoy watching porn simply because i get alot of inspo in satisfying my partner in different ways i didnt know of but i would much rather be able to control my self and my erection when knowing that i can just go into sex for the experience and intimacy it holds. I want to shake away that feeling of wanting to masturbate leading to erectile dysfunction in the long run and find a way to balance both while ultimately leading to stopping watching porn altogether.
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Porn alters my criteria for attraction in women, and so I can have a tendency to feel less attracted to a woman if she doesn’t measure up to bodies that I see in porn.
I’m into certain kinks in porn that i am uncomfortable asking for in person
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Porn was always something I hid, so I conditioned myself to orgasm as quickly as possible. I worry that it is part of my issue with coming too quickly and not being able to be present and comfortable.
I feel like I’ve just fallen into using it to de-stress and don’t even enjoy it, and by extension, sex any longer…
It took me 23 years to fully accept myself and gain the confidence to have sex with another person, so I was solo and using porn for years, probably since I was 12-13 years old. I can now see the harm it’s had on my mental health and expectations, and has completely altered how I view beauty standards and expectations with other people. Desperately trying to rid myself of these misconceptions and change my relationship with porn and ideals.
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Until recently, I’ve had a good relationship with porn, but now I’m having trouble in my marriage and sex life, and I thought porn would continue to bring a release when needed, but I no longer find it arousing. I’d like to be able to self stimulate without it.
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I started very young and I prolly do it way too often, I view it at least once a day, usually more, especially for stress relief
I don’t use porn, but I think I have a similar relation with instagram models. I would like to reduce my consumption of that content to just the right amount so I can stay aroused, but also stick to reality
Ive watched more porn and masturbated to it than I’ve ever been with a woman. I wonder if my brain thinks THATS sex now.
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I am in exactly the same boat, and was my thoughts exactly… my body things sex is alien and porn and masturbation is normal. That’s what I thought, and I am hoping that Mojo can change that mindset
I need to focus on what is “real”… 2 to 8 minutes is the average time for sex… that was a shock. I always had the expectation that it should be a longer thing. I want it to be longer because it is enjoyable, but maybe I have been setting my expectations too high, and I should be more focused on shorter sessions… maybe with a longer foreplay, and not “rush into it”
In a similar boat my man, but it’s encouraging to see that there’s a way out by changing our perspective on things, I’m sure it will be challenging but in my experience, anything in life that is worth doing will be a challenge.
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I search my fantasies on adult websites. I think that my brain has been trained to think that those fantasies are real sex.