I want to change the compulsiveness that I have. Lately I have been considering that I need more ways to cope and regulate, even before considering Mojo. I am realizing that the way I have been using it, coupled with the sneaky aspects that it holds with my partner, is creating a harmful pattern.
Wow, this is a big question to answer. I’ve been wrestling with it a lot these last few months. The information from this exercise provided a lot of clarity and insight though, and I’m grateful for that.
I want to stop relying on it as an escape from unwanted thoughts or feelings.
I want to stop the continuous fantasy of porn from superseding my desire for partnered sex
I want to save it for my partner
Watching porn has definitely become both a part of my daily routine, along with a soothing strategy for anxiety/stress. It’s definitely time for me to put energy into more productive activities during the day and find healthier self-soothing strategies. At the same time, when I do watch porn, I should make sure I don’t beat myself up over it afterwards if I’m watching it responsibly.
Detaching feelings of guilt and allowing myself to watch occasionally guilt free, since I don’t really think it’s a problem for me. Also, a big one, when I do watch, try not to link the actors with comparisons to myself.
I want to separate myself from porn and work on myself and do other creative things to pass time.
I want to use it a bit more to relax about sex and realise not one thing is ‘ normal’
I want to find diverse alternativr ways to self soothe rather than porn
Porn and sexual content has stopped me from actively getting an erection during sex, even with ED medication in the system (had the headache to prove it).
No matter how attractive I find my partner, my brain is so used to the specific sexual outlets that I use online that even being with my partner sexually doesn’t physically arouse me.
I’ve been looking at porn for over 30 years now and I’m finally realising that I don’t want the downsides of it anymore. Masturbatory death grip, inability to maintain a rock solid erection, amongst other things.
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Continue to stay away from video. Occasionally use stills or audio.
I want to masterbate without porn exclusively for now
I have felt like I take my sexuality for granted and use it to distract myself from stress. I want to treat it more respectfully for now, giving it my full attention when I pleasure myself, not using it as a coping mechanism
Use porn when I feel horny, not bored
I want to get away from specific kinks that are numbing me to normal sex
Use porn as self soothing activity, not as a distraction
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Stop using it to help me get back to sleep.
I want to take out porn from my life for taking out those imaginaries of how sex should be, just to connect with my partner and enjoy.
I want to take a prolonged break from it while I’m rebuilding my sexual confidence. I don’t want to be relying on it while on this journey.
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