I never want to chose porn over sex
It’s a bit overblown to say porn is “ruining my life,” but I do maybe use it a bit too much and at the wrong times. My goal is to only watch it when I’ve done everything I need to do in a given day
I don’t want to use porn as a crutch to help with negative emotions. I want to restrict my porn usage more. I want to move away from watching more extreme pornography
When I am bored, I only want to watch porn if there is a real reason for it and I am genuinely in the mood. Not just because
I am self employed and have plenty of time during my workday. I do not think it is productive to watch porn during the work week. I will not do this any more.
On the plus side it’s fed into my imagination and definitely enriched my sex life over the years - I have been with 3 partners who were into BDSM to various degrees, so there was an element of discovery. On the down side the total saturation and availability of everything pornographic has taken out all of the excitement that it used to hold. It became too easy. I’d like to get that thrill back, like a ritual. Watching porn now is mundane, I guess due to incremental desensitization to visual stimulation, which drives me to search for more. I am honest with myself and say that I really like it, I just know it’s not good for me in huge doses. I am also keen to keep it ethical. If I have suffered guilt from watching porn it has come from concern that someone might have been coerced in its production - which I think is a well-founded concern and I think it’s bizarre that we as consumers are not so ethically aware when choosing what to watch (unlike what we eat, what they drive, or how their clothes are made)
Every time I get an urge to watch porn, I will change my physical space
Nothing.
I used to do the wristy once a day, I thought ED is caused by it, I completely stopped for like 2 weeks, and I actually saw little improvements.
Now I watch porn one or two times a week.
I don’t want to feel guilty when I’ve watched it, I want to be able to use actually sexual experiences for release.
I see it as a easier way to satisfy yourself but really want to stop watching it completely. Longest I’ve gone was 3 weeks then masticated to it 3 times over two days. So I can do it, it’s staying motivated to do so
Watch more common bodies in porn and also not use it as a procrastination method. Or my main boredom/stress reliever.
I want to go for a ride on my bike instead of grabbing my phone to watch porn…
I find a lot of Silva’s message to be very interesting. It has helped me to see things differently. I was, however, caught off guard by the text page that said your sexual tastes will not go from vanilla to hardcore. This is 100% contrary to my experience and many others. Furthermore, it also implies that there ARE unacceptable or less accepted kinks… so which is it? Because I was on board with the message but now I’m feeling guilty again because I DID “go from Vanilla Town to Gangbang City.” Is that bad? That’s what this portion implies. If I was to guess, Silva didn’t write that part. It really came out of nowhere and doesn’t fit with the rest of the message.
I think the only real issue that I have with porn is currently feeling shameful about the fact that I feel like I get harder and am more comfortable when watching it as compared to having sex. I think that feeling of shame is not beneficial.
Honestly, I just want to be in a situation and live in that moment, and not compare it to porn.
I’d like to not use it as a compulsion. I’d like to find other ways to de-stress instead of running to porn several times a day. I’d like to only watch porn that doesn’t leave me feeling like shit afterwards.
I want to watch porn only when I’m actually horny. Rather than just doing it for a good feeling when I’m not doing anything else
I want to get rid of stigma.
I want to start watching porn again to get in touch with what turns me on so I can more easily be aroused having sex with my partner.
I would like to watch a wider variety so I’m not hung up on the same fantasy
Because me and my partner have been having difficulties during sex, leaving one or both of us feeling terrible and down, i look forward to masturbating to porn more than having sex. I feel relieved when i realise we are not having sex today because one of us is tired or my partner is having her period, and look foward to masturbating instead. I want to watch less porn and not be so quick to want to chose that over the real thing. I also watch alot of different porn, everything really, staight, gay, shemale and everything in between. Although i have had curiosities about being with a shemale, in real life i do not find men sexually attractive. But ive been using porn for so long that normal male on female porn isnt enough anymore. This worries me as ive built up such expectations that are unrealistic in real life and even i wouldnt want in real life.