Iām really trying to stop watching porn. Iāve been trying to stop for a long time now, and I canāt seem to stay away.
I still would like to do solo, or even audios every once in a while, but I always go back to porn.
I want to stop cause I feel like it affects my self-esteem/confidence when it comes to simply asking someone out.
Iāve been with plenty of women in the past and only a handful of somewhat serious relationships, but Iāve been on a dry spell for a bit due to the psychological ED issues that have presented itself within the last few years.
I feel like if I stopped watching porn, it would be the first step to stopping these ED issues.
Any advice?
And please donāt be a dick and say ājust stopā, cause clearly that method isnāt working out.
Iāve heard people say the āeasy peezyā method worked for them. I donāt know what it is and havenāt tried it. But there seems to be a free book about it here: https://easypeasymethod.org
I was in the same position. I loved to watch porn whilst masturbating but Iād always hate myself for it afterwards. Iād sometimes spend up to an hour or more watching it to masturbate and it just felt like it was taking over. I finally told myself I was going to stop, and instead I started using the erotic audios on this app as well as ones I found on the internet.
If itās a struggle for you to quit, try swapping your videos for the audio is a few times a week until you feel like youāre at the point where you can completely phase out watching porn and just listen to an audio whenever you need to bash one out. I found that, for me, masturbation wasnāt the problem, it was the content that I used (porn) that was doing the harm.
Hope this is somewhat helpfulā:right_facing_fist:
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Stopping porn can be empowering.
I quit about 90% porn and solo. Iāve tried solo using imagination, audio and reading. Young me used to love Penthouse Forum & Variations.
Iām not curedā¦. I have a deathgrip and
I still go solo with porn occasionally. Iāve learned to be more in the moment. Sex isnāt a mountain I have to climb. Itās a lot of fun. Sometimes I canāt get from foreplay to pussy without losing it. I take a breath and go to plan B. Focus on the hottie in front of me, rub it on her sex and listen to her reactions. I watch her facial expressions. She loves her feet played with. I tickle them lightly with my beardā¦ her reactions plus the friction of me on her sex, usually gets me back to 70%ā¦
What Iām getting at is we put too much pressure on ourselves. Iāve had several talks with her and she knows itās not her. Itās an issue in my head that sheās determined to help with.
Iāll start researching that and see if it helps
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Yeah Iām giving it a shot now. Gonna stick with it and hopefully just slow down in general to help with my death grip issue
This definitely helps!
Iām just nervous about picking a partner to try it with in general.
Iām gonna try to stop putting so much pressure on myself.
Phasing out helps for me, but yes 100% quit never lasts.
I try to think of having a 2 or 3 day full break from masturbating is a ālittle treatā rather than a punishment or anything because the next session will be very intense and far easier with only basic sound/image or none at all.
It helps to journal about these changes too. Like āwow, a short break then just 1 pic was actually more pleasurable and in my body rather than fixating with my eyesā and youāll change your whole association and behaviour.
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Iāll have to give journaling a shot for this, might actually be useful.
Was dedicated to start quitting at new years but felt it was near impossible. Youāre not gonna be 100% and everyone will say that. Something that helped me is to reflect when Iām craving for it, what feelings am I thinking about when trying to watch it. Is it to just escape other issues? Another way that helped is to delete all the apps I can look at it on. Reddit was the worst for me. I also used opal to block the websites so I wasnāt even able to get on them if I wanted (swear Iām not sponsored)
. 45 days without watching and was a daily porn watcher before. Good luck and you got this!
When do you usually end up looking at porn? What time of day? Where are you? And what are you doing before? How are you feeling before?
If you can learn to recognize the moments when you might look at porn, you can create a plan for yourself to do an alternative activity.
Rather than just gritting your teeth and trying not to look at porn, replace it with something else you like.
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Unfortunately itās either right when I wake up or right when Iām trying to sleep. Waking up doing it I can avoid.
But when Iām trying to sleep, the routine has been so engraved in my brain that itās hard not to touch myself.
Iām really trying to just meditate to sleep instead but itās proving a bit of a challenge
Same here! Lasted till the end of January and now Iām resetting, a few days clean from visual porn.
Reddit is beyond tempting, might have to get rid of it soon.
I appreciate the kind words! You got this as well 
I found a bunch of tips online and these are the 5 that completely changed my thoughts
- Know Your Triggers
Figure out what makes you want to watch porn and find other ways to deal with those feelings.
- Block the Sites
Use apps like BlockSite or Cold Turkey to stop you from going to porn sites.
- Find New Things to Do
Get into hobbies, work out, or hang out with people to keep busy and distracted.
- Get Help
Talk to someone, join a group like NoFap, or try therapy if you need support.
- Donāt Be Hard on Yourself
If you slip up, donāt beat yourself up. Focus on the progress youāve made and keep going.
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If it happens when youāre going to sleep, try leaving your phone in a different room while you sleep. Make any adjustments you need for that to happen. Maybe you need to buy a cheap nightstand alarm clock so that you donāt have to rely on your phone.
No visual porn for over a week, feeling good
Some audio here and there but definitely feeling more in touch with my body