So i’ve been using Mojo for about a month. Recently decided to give daily taladafil a try as well. For the past month i’ve also stayed away from porn and masturbation.
Earlier this week i had the best sex experience of my life. I got hard naturally, stayed rock hard throughout and orgasmed. Something i attribute to the influence of Mojo and the pills.
I came away feeling ecstatic and like something had really changed after struggling with erections for years. But for the rest of the week i’ve been wracked with anxiety, worrying that it might be a one off, that next time my dick might fail me again.
Earlier this week i was feeling so positive and confident and now it all feels wasted.
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Natural response. Your inner voice is telling you something that is not true. Your body has already not only told you what is true, but also shown it to be true. Your inner voice believes it is protecting you from future disappointed. In fact it is setting you up for future failure. Just point to this experience and remind yourself that by God you had a good time and you intend to do so again and again and again.
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Ask your inner critic, why’s it such a bad thing if you can’t get hard? Stop being so hard on yourself (pardon the pun). You’re not perfect and aren’t going to be ready to rock 100% of the time. No one is. Take the W and move on.
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What helped me through the same inner critic thoughts was: It’s normal that the penis goes a little soft during sex. It doesnt stay hard all the time, dont get stressed by it turning a bit softer, its as it should be. That really helped me not get obsessively focused on how hard my penis was all the time.
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5mg tadalafil does wonders. Not only great for bedroom but also used by bodybuilders for better muscle pumps during workouts
Yeah i’ve been trying to keep that in mind and focusing on box breathing and sensation.
But think this bout of anxiety’s really fucked with my head.
Yeah i’ve been trying to be conscious of that. Reminding myself that i can do this i just need to be calm and confident about it.
But think this bout of anxiety’s really fucked with my head. But gonna try and pull myself out of it
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Mojo calls it spectorating and its really spot on. Getting obsessed about observing your own penis during sex rather than enjoying the sensation. The «soft penis pleasure exercise» is great for this. Learn how enjoy your penis while its soft. This rewires the brain to avoid thinking a soft penis is a catastrophe. Ive been there trust me, but im slowly rewireing my self. Learn to control your breathing both outside and during sex. When you get anxious or stressed your adrenaline goes up, heartbeat and breathing frequency too. When youre in danger you need to breathe fast. When you have sex you dont need to. If you are able to breathe slowly during sex, you are telling your brain its ok, theres no danger. If you were in front of a bear, you would never be able breathe slowly. Its the same with cold baths/showers. When youre are able to breathe slowly during cold plunges, the cold sensation goes away. You can now withstand cold temperature because you are telling your body: I’m only in the shower, im not drowning in the cold ocean. So by breathing mindfully, you are taking control over your mind and body. This is real important!!!
When you get stressed during sex, your adrenaline goes up and makes your heartbeat and breathing frequency too. If you can control your breathing during sex you are telling your brain its okay, im not in danger. You would never be able to do this if a bear is attacking you. Its the same with cold showers. At first you hyperventilate, but as you control your breathing, your body relaxes. You are directly telling your brain that : «I am not in danger, i am not drowning in the cold ocean, i am simply in the shower.» Eventually, the cold sensation becomes pleasurable. You may not notice it but you most likely have higher chest breathing and faster breathing when you get stressed during sex. Maybe not much but subtly for sure. Control your breathing. This will eventually lead to you relaxing and be able to get and keep an erection. Also, soft penis pleasure is a really important exercise. You are teaching your brain that there is nothing wrong with your penis being soft, and trust me ive been there. Constantly checking if my penis is hard enough during sex. If it was slighy softer the inner critic took over and i lost the erection. Mojo calls it spectorating and its really spot on. You are focused on the erection of your penis rather than the good sensation sex can give you. F.ex getting a blowjob while my penis is soft gives me more sensation than when its hard. Why not enjoy it. Having my partner ride me when my penis is semi-hard gives her less pain. Its perfectly normal ans can even be beneficial. Your penis cannot be at its hardest during the whole session. You would probably damage your penis. Control your breathing, enjoy the sensation and let your penis get a little soft its normal!
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I had a very similar experience. The suffering you are going through is good for you, as long as you stick with the app and overcome it. I suggest you try the performance anxiety meditations every day for a week. I still get anxious from time to time but my highs are so much higher.
Good comments about soft penis pleasure. I’ve actually prevented myself from allowing that to happen. I thought I was training myself to be limp.
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Man that’s great news!!!
Congrats man!!!
My gf is 2hrs away taking care of her mom after a new hip….
2-3 more weeks for me to work the app and hopefully have an improvement from when she left…
Thanks! Exacly, its such a good exercise.