The inner critic was telling me I had a small dick and it’s embarrassing. Those thoughts impact my confidence in the bedroom and increase my anxiety.
You should be getting hard what’s wrong with you
I felt some embarrassment from past relationships and memories when we were both looking at my hard on going soft, and I was trying to teach myself to be ok with it.
The inner critic was being a piece of shit to my lil guy had to come out and defend him
Started obsessing with getting hard
I have always played with it and my balls too. I just like the way it feels! So touching my soft penis was not weird for me at all, but I did try and think of it from a perspective of me touching it when I’m trying to get hard. I did notice how it was way easier to get hard when I didn’t want to/wasn’t pressuring myself than when I was trying to force it.
Whenever it gets hard my inner critic just go : “Ok, you can’t finish now. If you do you fail the exercise, let it become soft again…”
I just wish my gf would be open to trying to deal with my ed problem or atleast touch it and play with it so it isnt me trying to do all the work to get it up.
At first it felt so lifeless and soft then i slowly relaxed and started to get hard but then inner critic said “your only hard because you took some cialis last night” and “Thats ok here you can relax and i will get hard but wait til you are expected to perforn we all know what will happen!!” Its like a battle between my mind,my penis who just wants to do his own thing and me who desperately wants them both to get along and be as one
My inner critic kept fixating on the size. It kept saying that my penis looked better erect. That this state was less than. It’s interesting to think that during sex when I take my pants off that my inner critic is telling me to be embarrassed of my flaccid penis. That my penis needs to get erected right away so I don’t embarrass myself. So that turns on the pressure. If I become comfortable with my soft penis, then there isn’t pressure to focus on getting erect. I can just let my body take over.
Flashbacks of when I couldn’t get it up comes in my head. It’s the reason I struggle to get it up
“Your penis is small and unattractive. You know this be won’t work right? Nobody likes this”
These are the same kind of thoughts, or maybe the voice of what I hear during sex.
It said that when I am younger ( I am now 41 years old ) it will arouse quicker. You are old.
My inner critic came in the form of flash backs to all those times I couldn’t get hard
Hurry up, what is this, if it gets hard we should come
I felt like it’s not acceptable to have a soft penis, like my penis was always the star of the party, decked out and glamorous. Sometimes I struggle with a low libido, and if I let that seed of doubt start, it usually snowballs into performance anxiety. Having a conversation with my girlfriend is challenging when I feel like my lack of erection is ruining the party.
Inner critic was definitely there to start, but as time went on it became quieter and I felt less negative and frustrated
You should be getting hard, this would be a disaster if a woman was here, your batteries are dead
yes
My inner critic had only one thing to say during my first attempt at this exercise: “Why isn’t it this easy for you to get hard for sex?” Usually he (me) is too worried about how well I will (or won’t) please my partner, if I’ll even be able to get or maintain an erection, if I’ll last long enough (maintain erection or ejaculate prematurely) to please her, etc. I think the positive affirmations listed were extremely helpful in keeping this a positive experience.
It took me about 30 minutes to complete this exercise, having to stop and reset a few times to allow my penis to get soft again. Overall, this was a fun and insightful experience. It’s admittedly sad to admit, but this might’ve been the first time in my entire life (I’m 27) that I actually looked at my penis in a healthy, loving way. The positive affirmations helped to make this feel great, even though it wasn’t actually “pleasurable.” Hopefully this is a step in the right direction for treating/preventing my performance anxiety and ED.