How do you plan to simmer?

[mobile-red-llama]

I think I simmer more than I realize. I want to engage more with her and use more sexual charged actions and words to hype us up

[actual-gray-mink]

I feel like I already simmer a good amount, but I will start paying extra attention to it and viewing it as a sexual charge type of mechanism.

[friendly-green-seahorse]

Adding more intimate touch and closeness to everyday activities, like getting a little sexy in the kitchen or while working out

[famous-chocolate-primate]

Touch and looks and rembering good moments sexeytime

[significant-bronze-krill]

Tell my partner how sexy I find them in their underwear

[shaky-white-whippet]

As someone who’s single, maybe mentally hang on to interactions where I feel slight arrousal, and maybe ride out those fantasies a bit as a way to check in with my libido

[involved-gold-fish]

I think I currently do this

[sorry-jade-raven]

This is a great idea - it seems like part of sex without the full blown sex part. Almost like you’re just taking care of the love between you both, something that supports great sex and connection

[evolutionary-white-limpet]

I plan to simmer by using the tips listed previously, but also by paying my partner more attention and being a bit extra with my kisses. I would also invite them into simmering with me.

[comparative-pink-cephalopod]

I am struggling through a low libido period despite simmering

[industrial-magenta-barnacle]

A lot more comfortable with simmering now that I’ve gotten this info! I was kinda avoiding thoughts of sex in general, or maybe the thought of sex carried with it the thoughts of sexual failure or inadequacy. Whatever, I’m over all that. I’ll go ahead and enjoy my fantasies and flirtations! It really does warm the system up.

[generous-aquamarine-quelea]

I will probably be single for the foreseeable future so I’ll have to do it solo. I already do plenty of sexual fantasizing but I’ll start doing it in a more structured and mindful way. I don’t usually bother imagining what all my senses are sensing during an entire fantasy.

[diplomatic-red-lizard]

I am planning to simmer solo and with partner. Solo - by catching different cues in real life, fantasies, imagination, and with partner - telling her things that would encourage desire.

[informal-jade-egret]

I will try a little bit of both solo and with my partner

[thorough-purple-sloth]

I didn’t know there was a word for ‘simmering’ but I think I’d forgotten the importance of doing it. My partner and I have very different ways of thinking / love languages so making time for simmering is a great way to make sure we have shared moments where we’re on the same page.

[simple-aquamarine-urial]

I hope my wife is down to do this so it cam help boost our marriage

[professional-black-elephant]

I’ll give it a try

[yodelling-rose-clownfish]

I’ll be making an effort to engage with sexual thoughts more throughout the day as I’m able, and allow a fantasy to play out longer in my mind

[alternative-tomato-snail]

Definitely sending those texts to my partner now

[voluntary-gray-quokka]

Start by giving her a passionate kiss when leaving in the morning.