Only really first time around with a new partner. Once I feel comfortable it tends to go away but that initial moment can be frustrating and embarrassing
I can feel the erection go away and I realize it’s not going to work and I’m not going to satisfy my partner. I don’t feel great.
Yes, but i ignore it often
Not really anxious but do want to perform and make partner happy. Start thinking about that and not finishing too soon.
Yes. Often before when I know sex is going to happen. Then as it escalates there so much pressure I become less present and cannot enjoy the experience.
Yes sometimes I start to worry when I’m about to have sex that I won’t get an erection or if I do it won’t be firm enough or stay hard for long enough. It starts me on a cycle of second guessing and stressing myself out about something I know my body can do but because I’m stressing It’s a cycle
I’ve had the problem since college but mostly limited to the first time or so with a new partner. Usually we’d wake up in the morning and I’d have a good morning wood, have relaxed sleepy sex, and then the anxiety and issue would be over. Recently I’ve found myself on in a new relationship and my overwhelming desire to please this woman and be a worthy partner in her eyes consistently makes my nerves a mess, and it’s been a lot worse than before. It’s terrifying because my desire to be in with her is a lot stronger than with past partners with whom I had no issue, and I don’t want to screw things up with a woman I burn for because my negative thoughts get in the way of a good physical connection.
I start to worry about whether or not I’ll be able to get hard and if she’ll notice and be disappointed in me, and that definitely doesn’t help. If I get distracted by something worrying I might lose it as well.
My wife and I have a great relationship except the sexual aspect of it. We’re pretty dead in the bedroom, and that’s mostly on me. It started with her IUD poking the head of my penis and it never recovered. I really want to make this work, and that weight is there, everytime we have sex, the few times a year we have it.
Whenever I get anxious during sex I get chills and the erection just fades away almost instantly.
I get anxious for various reasons during sex and the thought of it affecting my sexual ability makes the anxiety skyrocket.
When I was doing it alone by myself I used to get good erection and strong . But when I am with my partner I can’t get it up and can’t keep it up and strong after getting it up with my hand . Because of the thinking and the pressure now I can’t get it up well even alone by myself now ….+porn history…… but I know it’s all because I am stuck in my brain ….
With partner yea, feel like I’ve got too much pressure to commit,
When single I could perform well with one night stands
I put too much emphasis on making sure my partner is being satisfied I loose my need for pleasure
I’ve never had a problem until now (I’m 31). The first time was when my partner and I had a serious talk (it’s all resolved now), but I couldn’t get hard after that and it really knocked me for a couple of days.
I slowly got over the anxiety I think and started to get back into the groove, but one time, I’ve been vaping a fair bit and I couldn’t get it up at all, even though I had no anxiety and I didn’t understand why.
Now I’m back to where I started, though I do believe vaping/smoking was the cause so I’ve cut it out completely.
Let’s see…
I feel like I’m always anxious during sex, I’m always worried that I won’t keep an erection for long, and it is detrimental to my performance.
I had never been affected by this until I went soft in the middle of sex with someone then it became more frequent because I wouldn’t worry about it happening again and just like that thinking about it it just happens
Absolutely. I sometimes get a little anxious before hand, and I start getting worried about my performance, sometimes hours, before sex.
Sometimes. Makes it more difficult to get hard
Sometimes