Not cuckolding per se, but my wife and I tried hotwifing a few years ago.
The distinction, to me, is that cuckolding implies that the cuckold is in some sense participating (whether by directly observing or being fed information by their partner), and more importantly implies a humiliation aspect. What my wife and I did was that I encouraged her to have sex with other men, and I didn’t need to be involved beyond knowing “I’m going to be out tonight”.
I suggested the arrangement because my wife seemed more sexually interested than I was at the time (I was thinking I was asexual, but in retrospect I was mostly just depressed), and I didn’t want her to be deprived of something important to her. Ultimately it was fine, it didn’t make me jealous or anything, but I do think I used the fact that my wife didn’t need me as a sexual outlet as an excuse to avoid working on the actual underlying issues. And I think actual cuckolding (with me being present/involved and being actively humiliated) probably would have made things much, much worse.
I don’t think it’s a wrong thing to enjoy if it gets you going, and you certainly can indulge in whatever kinks/fetishes you like, but I would say:
- Don’t let it turn into a way to hide from your underlying problems
- Relatedly, make sure your self-esteem is in a place where you can handle your partner getting satisfaction from someone else, doubly so if you go in for direct participation and/or humiliation
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Ever since the first time I had sex I would think about the girl fucking another guy because it makes me think she’s slutty and needs more, could signal that I don’t think I’m enough? Turned it into more so her going in a date and coming back to me used, but being honest and wanting me more - kind of cucky? And also gabbaging her. I found a ripped guy with bigger D than me and lived it out, didn’t it exactly as I wanted and it was depressing.
Interesting thought. It’s not something I want to I’m not into degrading kinks. But sharing yes. Heck half the reason I looked into this app is the fact I have no problems getting it up with my wife. But go to a swingers party and it’s a whole different ball game.
Everyone likes what they like and as long as everyone involved is consenting and no one is being hurt. Go for it
I was cuckolded in my marriage. But it wasn’t because of Ed it was because she needed more attention than I could give. Now I’m having issues with my new gf and the thought crosses my mind that if I don’t preform for her will she cheat idk makes it worse for sure.
My wife recently cheated on me and can clean about it I have been having issues with keeping an erection. When we are fooling around with clothes on my penis is erected as soon as the clothes come off and it’s time to penetrate my penis goes soft. Idk what to do?
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No not ok not ok at all to watch someone else screw your girl not ok and it your girl is ok with screwing someone else in general behind your back or in front of you she ain’t your girl
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Is there any kind of support for my girlfriend while I’m working on the app. We’ve been together for a little over 2 years, so hot and heavy for the first 5 months then ED took it to a non existent standstill. Opening up more with my struggles alleviated her feelings toward what was happening to our sex life and it was helpful for only so long. I’ve gotten support with you guys since October and she was actually the one who directed me to Mojo. Here we are though, being in a distant/ sexless relationship has really affected her self esteem and need to feel desired. She has been completely supportive and patient but she deserves support too. We communicate often about my porn addiction and performance anxiety. I learned that I used to just objectify woman and their place in my world. I had sex with women when opportunity came or when I put effort in but I still masterbated to porn 3-5 times a week, my relax time. It’s exciting and always new material even though the subject matter was the same (girl on girl). I’ve done that for over 25years. Now I know that I want real sex and a relationship that lasts. I’ve been porn free for 4 months now and unfortunately it hasn’t made me any more interested in a real sexual encounter. I don’t want to lose her and that’s why I’m reaching out. We do the app lesson’s and it seems to leave us with feeling unfulfilled and awkward. Doing a task rather than experiencing a sensation process that’s where my headspace falls. Task done and no attachment to it leading to a feeling that holds.
Any feedback or suggestions?
No way, the thought of this angers me
Absolutely not. Why would you ever want your partner to be taken by another man?
No - my wife cheated on me and it was negative but not sure it fed in to ED
I like the idea of it very much, I’d go as far as to say it’s my biggest turn on. Does it have a negative psychological root? I’ve wondered at that, and I think it’s certainly possible. That being said, the experience was successfully incorporated into a previous [open] relationship, so it’s not necessarily dysfunctional by default
I don’t think I’ve desired another man doing it, but sexy part would be seeing the chick getting fucked and enjoying it. I wonder if you could make a 3d video of you fucking her and then watched it with some VR glasses of that would do the trick.
I was a cuckold and now divorced because of it. Had no ED then. Not sure if related. My ED came on suddenly about a month ago, whereas my divorce was in 2019.
I think a lot of my porn usage centers around my mental issues specifically around my low self esteem and my depression that I’ve carried through my life. I think cuckold porn, sissy porn and in general my attraction to femdom porn is due to a severe need to feel bad about myself, and feel inadequate because that’s what I’ve been consciously or subconsciously feeling a lot of my life.
When it comes to erectile issues, I don’t think of cuckolding because of them, I think I have erectile issues because of my fetish which is in turn due to my own issues. It hurts so much and it sucks but I’m trying my best to feel better
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I’ve honestly harbored these type of fantasies from the time I first started having sex with women and am pretty sure I’ve had them to some extent with all the women I have dated or even just fucked more than a few times. Early on they seemed to be somewhat jealousy based but that soon subsided and I came to be interested mostly in imagining how my girl would react with another man. Would she be sluttier if it were just a casual thing ? Would she act different with a man with a larger dick or was better looking? I thought about all sorts of things. While I never convinced any of them to do it over the years, I did get some to sort of play along with me and tell me about men that they’d had before me. It was really great foreplay, perhaps too good for me as I think my interest in it might have sort of creeped some of them out, but others enjoyed how excited I was by hearing about them and the way they had been fucked and so forth. I can honestly say that while I’ve had these sort of fantasies pretty much from the word GO, it has not been the root of my ED. I had many years with cuckold fantasies, many years before I even heard the world cuckold. Don’t know if this might help anyone but it is just my experience.
The discussion here proves you’re definitely not alone. Our fantasies often come from contradictory places, and we don’t necessarily want them to happen irl, but some guys definitely like the actual idea of sharing their partner in some way, either present or not, and whether you do or do not really want to make it happen, it’s all good if everyone’s getting what they want out of it. I wouldn’t say this idea is universally related to erection difficulties, but maybe it starts there for you? Maybe it gets you going, though, and pulls you out of it? I think leaning into your desires and pleasure is a good direction for your sexual function. No shame, no need to yuck your own (or anyone else’s) yum.
I once liked the idea as a fantasy, either as the top or to a straight couple…
but it once a non-consensual cuckholding happened to me by a partner who was not practiced with threeway etiquette, and was extremely selfish when high.
Etiquette practices like checking in and reassurance offering and involving multiple people at once unless they opt to voyeur.
It was an experience that caused a lot of hurt and I think remains in my psyche, but we aren’t together now for other reasons, so it doesn’t affect us anymore…
But it happened because it was such a long session I couldn’t get hard again and I was too exhausted to be the btm.