I felt resentful because all of our issues were brought up with company over
I needed to deal with these issues in private.
I am in the same boat. My ED issues consume me and wife and I would fight about this (she would think she isnt turning me on which is not the case). Since I started Mojo about 2 weeks ago this has improved; my wife and I are being intimate more frequently but what is also consuming me is I never wake up with morning wood. And I switch between Sildenafil, tadalafil and sometimes with supplement with L arginine as well. And I do not have low blood pressure from this, my readings are normal. But I am also being treated for high blood pressure, work in financial services and extremely stressed and great night of sleep for me is if I get 6 hours. I typically get by on 5. I’m 45 years old but the way I talk about my issues feel like I’m much older!
My need was to try to make sex work but he felt pressured and it made him not want to be a part of it
I felt hurt and wanted comforting and she was feeling alone and wanted connection
I felt frustrated and unsure how to process how I was feeling, because I wasn’t looking properly at what I needed.
I needed reassurance that we were going to get through this together, she wanted me to figure everything out alone
My partner got upset when we were having sex and I lost erection. She thought it was because I didn’t find her attractive anymore. She appeared sad and disappointed thinking it’s her fault. After talking and ensuring her it has nothing to do with her we were able to talk about our feelings and needs and explore causes of what happened
My partner constantly would feel annoyed that I would make assumptions about what she wanted or what her needs were. She needed to feel understood, and that the other person was trusting. I on the other hand would feel sad and frustrated that no matter what I did I couldn’t seem to understand what she was telling me the way she waged me to. What I needed was for her to trust that I was trying my best to understand what she was saying and for her to give me some grace.
My partner felt annoyed when I would clam up if something was bothering me. She felt like I was avoiding her and not communicating when in reality I though she needed space and so was trying to give her what I thought she needed.
The meant we weren’t communicating when we needed to most.
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I usually use smartass remarks and try to bury my anger, because I don’t like my temper or letting it get out of control. It’s not a healthy response, and this is definitely helpful.
“How are you feeling? What do you need?”. Such key skills
Are you feeling frustrated? Do you need something from me?
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Worrying about how someone will react causes me to feel insecure and quick to be argumentative and defensive
Someone needed connection and value, and expressed it as shying away and avoiding conflict
She just needs me to listen
Overwhelmed, support
Do you need something from me? This is a great question. Definitely using it
To be paid attention to
To be acknowledged for trying to help
She just needs me to love her