I have an issue with other partners outside of my wife. We participate in the swinging lifestyle. Been at this program for about 6 weeks and had a couple of opportunities over the past couple of weeks with little to no improvement. Anyone in a similar boat…any suggestions? I will say it has helped with the stress in my professional life.
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Could you describe where you feel things are going awry? Are you stressed leading up to it thinking about “failure”? Are you ok for some time during sex but then start spectatoring and lose your erection?
In the past some stress leading up to it, but the last time I did not feel like I was stressed. I have been with this particular lady several times (about 1/2 the times it did not work). It did not get hard at all. Even had to wife work on it and nothing. I was able to focus on the sensations, things felt good. I was hoping this program would help with this.
No problem with the wife the following morning.
Hmm I wish I had some better advice other than to say don’t be too critical of yourself. Maybe the best I can say is to look at the glass half full instead of half empty since you’ve had the experience you desire about half the time. I would maybe lean into the 3:1 positive thought to negative thought exercise. Whenever you have a negative thought about this lady and your experience, replace it with three positive thoughts. Those positive thoughts will be based in reality since you’ve had good experiences with this person.