I love sex but am having issues finishing with my wife of 23years…I thought it was something wrong with me but am starting to see that if she would do something other than reject me every time I try to get the pussy and then when she finally gives in it is like she is doing me a favor …I’m not the problem.the problem is I’m not interested in fucking someone that doesn’t want to fuck me. Period.
This is why my marriage (3 years, but a 12 year relationship overall) broke down. It had gone on for a long time, with sex maybe once every six weeks.
When it happened it was very much “well fine I suppose we should” and over with as quick as possible. It made me feel like some sort of slobbering r4pey sex monster and I hated it, and had practically resigned myself to a life of beating off.
Then I shared a kiss with another woman at the side of a lake and I realised what it felt like to be wanted again. Long story short I’m now with her, but I’m dealing with the leftover trauma from that relationship about sex and sexuality.
Honestly, I’d say sit down with a cuppa and talk to her about it. Is she bored? Is she no longer interested? Is sex not the critical part of the relationship it once was?
It’ll be the hardest conversation imaginable but might open some doors.
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I’m sorry to hear that. It’s difficult and painful when your partner isn’t into it for whatever reason. I hope it gets better soon. Good luck!