That’s a very awkward scenario in my mind. Lots of doubt plays out as I’m imagining it. But I gotta break the doubt, own it. Can’t be any worse than it is now NOT talking about these issues.
I had some ED with my new partner during our first night being playful and I just straight off told her that this is an issue I am dealing with. She took it well.
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I do worry having that conversation is a potential mood killer
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It’s very intimidating and I feel like a failure. BUT, I know the only way to fix this is to find the courage to have the conversation.
If it’s with someone I trust and feel connected with it could take away anxiety if it’s already out in the open. But if it’s a hookup or fling I’d definitely be worried they’d ghost me or even worse tell other people about it.
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Kinda nervous to hear her responses but nothing we can’t work out together.
It can be difficult. In my previous relationship, my partner threw my issues in my face after becoming upset. I know it’s the right move to open up, though I will just have to be comfortable being vulnerable again
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I believe I have pinpointed the issues related to grief and lack of communication due to grief which has led to erection issues. We have discussed them twice which has been immensely helpfully and freeing! But to continue the conversation has been the struggle. I feel burdensome and that has led to a lapse in communication which cycles this entire problem.
I think tone is the most important thing when breaking the news. you gotta say it playfully and not seriously - tone can make or break it
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Coming from a lot term relationship, it’s not like the discussion points haven’t happened before. Its more about talking it through and trying to get her to understand what is happening and that I’m trying to work on it
Discussing potential erection issues beforehand takes away a bulk of the pressure and anxiety for me.
It’s definitely something I am trying to do over time, it’s not something I like to have an all at once approach to as I’m in a new relationship and don’t want to appear damaged goods. I know they won’t see it that way, but it’s a hard thing to shake.
It’s something I want to start doing more openly. In a previous relationship it was brought up by them in a joking way and I never delved into it, so it just felt like it was being mocked. But if I’d have addressed it I’m sure it would’ve been different.
I feel confident about discussing erection issues with my partners. Knowing better ways to do it sounds helpful
I’ve struggled with this because I’m in a long term relationship and it feels harder to discuss because of how much history we have. I think I’m ready to try new approaches to open up these topics
I really liked this segment. I have struggled in the past talking about this issue because it is one I can really stress on and be ashamed of. If a woman told me she had issues getting wet I wouldn’t feel any different about her. It would make me want to turn her on more and make her feel very comfortable. I think porn has really corrupted peoples heads including mine about what is suppose to happen in bed. This app has helped me so much in the past month. I love this community and I believe we can all get through this little hurdle and start having the fun we deserve!
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I have chatted to my wife and I continue to do so, but sometimes I know I worry about my erection issues more than she does, and bringing it up probably makes it a bigger deal in my head than it really is
Definitely going to try it
I’ve discussed it with my partner several times. She’s always very supportive and it’s always helped me make progress.
I feel comfortable enough if I know them well enough. While I have struggled in the past to avoid feeling judged in these situations, I am working hard to own them in a way that doesn’t make it seem awkward