When I was in high school, my girlfriend came over for the first time and I thought we were going to have sex. I was a virgin and she wasn’t so I was extremely nervous about if I would be bad at sex compared to other guys she had been with. I was hard the entire time we were sitting together and making out in my basement, but when her pants came off I panicked. I was so nervous that I was almost shaking. While I was eating her out, I was completely soft and that’s all I could think about. I was so confused and upset that I was with a cute, naked girl and couldn’t get hard. My pants weren’t off yet (she didn’t know I was having trouble) so I told her that I wanted to wait to have sex She was hurt and confused about what happened, but I was too embarrassed to tell her.
When I tried to have sex with my first college girlfriend, it was a similar story. The aspect that made this worse was the fear that word of what happened would spread around college and I’d be extremely embarrassed.
I hooked up with a girl and couldn’t get an erection.
Every situation is at the same level in my opinion. I just want my body to reflect how I feel and what I want in the moment. I don’t understand how it can respond well sometimes with a certain person and then other times it does not respond at all.
Attempted to have sex with a girl I had been infatuated with for months, but when push came to shove I couldn’t get hard for her no matter how hard either of us tried. We did as much as we could without penile penetration, but I couldn’t shake a feeling of shame the entire time. I felt like I was a major letdown after months of buildup between the 2 of us. We barely talked, if at all, after that. I feel like I ruined something that could have been amazing.
Attending a gangbang event and not being able to penetrate whilst other men were looking.
Been wanting to get with a girl I knew for a while but it took me by surprise when it actually happened. Was fine on the way over but soon as we were in the bedroom, nothing worked and I went into a circle of anxiety.
I hooked up with a girl from tinder who drove to my house. We drank some wine and were talking for a while before I made the move. I found myself getting hard but the moment I thought about it bam… gone. Then nothing all night. Made up for it in other ways but I knew she thought I didn’t find her hot and we never spoke again.
It had happened with my girlfriend a couple of times that I lost my erection while having sex, but it was no big deal as it was very rare and it was mostly when I was super stressed from other things and I could clearly tell her it was due to that. She broke up with me after over two years in the relationship (not due to ED, it was no issue really). I started hooking up with others and at first it was no problem, all worked well. Then with one girl I met on a dating app it flopped once I was putting the condom on. She loved sex and that was the main reason we met, so we tried again. After the second time it did not work I went to see the doctor, and he said just take some pills to recover the confidence and then leave them (really bad recommendation as he did not even ask me any questions). I took half a pill before next time I had sex with the same girl and it worked well but it was like having relief sex. Then I took a pill again with the girl and it did not work, I was horrified. I thought something was truly wrong since then. After that I connected to two other girls on an emotional level and tried to have sex over a time frame of over a year and it would happen too. It never worked the first time and at times I gave myself a really hard time and got frustrated. I have openly told the girls about this when it happened and they have been very supportive, but you can feel the frustration they have too. Now I often have trouble maintaining an erection while masturbating and I give myself a hard time for it even though I know I should not.
I have the bad experiences almost whenever I have sex. During intercourse, I last for a few minutes and the all of a sudden I just lose control over my erection. My worst experience was when I was on holidays with my wife. We both had a couple of drinks and then we went into the bed room to have sex. We started well. But then suddenly, I just lost my erection. That annoyed my wife who is always calm and supportive. She just wanted me to get hard and continue as she was also not satisfied. I was out of words and could not take control of the situation at all. I was embarrassed to death.
When I was trying to have sex with my first girlfriend (early 20s) and after multiple times of trying and failing, I went to the doctor with her and got prescribed viagra. I then couldn’t get it up after the viagra, which made both her and I feel terrible.
Began having sex with a co-worker and erection began to fail part of the way through. She was noticeably upset, which made me feel worse. I blamed it on something she told me, said I couldn’t stop thinking about what she said.
My partner is loves sex. I mean who doesn’t … and I’m so terrified to even try and have sex with her because I fill I will just be letting her down … and it makes me think if I can’t do it pro5 she will go and look somewhere else and it’s these thoughts I can’t deal with … I also have a blocked artery in my heart which doesn’t help but even wanking doesn’t help… I don’t know what to do anymore
I guess I’ve always had a problem with Premature ejaculation. Never usually a problem to get it up, but unless I control pace and level of contact/thrusting I struggle to last more than a minute or 2. Although my wife doesn’t say anything I strongly suspect this is a big frustration for her. I do try to make it up by focusing on giving her pleasure by hand or mouth (which is never a problem as I really enjoy focusing on her pleasure and I genuinely want to make her come this way) nevertheless I feel things are not complete without being able to last longer when inside her
Met a girl on a dating app and had several dates. We slowly got more physical over these dates until we made out in her car and headed to my place. On the way home I felt nervous already about the whole experience. Will I perform? Spoiler alert: I did not. Even worse, she gave me a second chance the next day. Same story - in the car heading to my place after the date I was already anxious. The previous night I had googled possible action items like playing music. I had my music and the lighting ready to go, but my little member was not. She was devastated. I was devastated. She said this had never happened to before and that sex was incredibly important. We almost had a relationship and this experience killed it. It broke me for a day or two.
The girl stated crying and taught she was ugly witch just made the experience way worse
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I am not sure how to describe one bad experience about being soft in the bedroom. I am a gay guy on my 40’s and only remember having a hard on while using some medication. I always found myself very comfortable with who I am and I believe that’s why I become more of a bottom. Because of my appearance, I am always taken as a top and that makes me terrified to even try unless I am already making sure the guy knows what will happen. Needless to say, I don’t need to be hard to bottom, but don’t have to be soft because I am a bottom. I learned how to enjoy bottoming, but I am very unhappy with my sexual performance on being soft most if the time, even with medication. I am always concerned that my partner will think I am not enjoying it or if I am not interested. It’s a hard place to be.
The first time I ever had sex I think is what started it. I was so nervous and scared. I wanted to do it right, but I didn’t have enough confidence in my sexual knowledge. I was scared I was going to mess up somehow and make a mistake or do something to her that was non-pleasurable. But I was also scared of the consequences. I was 17 at the time. What if I got her pregnant? That was a fear. I was imagining all of the worse consequences. While, me and this girl did eventually have sex at a later time, this moment has repeated itself throughout my life. Such worry, anxiety, nervousness, and fear.
Girl was naked in my bed. She was sucking me off and she wanted me to cum. I couldn’t cum, and I got nervous about that, and then I lost my erection. Then I couldn’t get it back up because I was in my head at that point.
I was out of town with a boyfriend. I’ve had ED issues since our relationship began. I think because of self esteem issues. I feel like he’s much more attractive. We had sex one night but the following night, I wasn’t able to get hard. Even with viagra. Then about a week later we tried again and I had the same result. Now I feel like I can’t escape it.
I’m 27. Coming from a conservative upbringing I haven’t had sex with my gf of 7 years. When I had to get back into dating, I’m terrified of reaching the let’s have sex phase. With a girl I just gave oral for initial interactions and this one time she brings condoms and lube and till then I had this confident guy image in front of her and it fell apart in the session. I tried to keep her pleasure going by switching to oral but she didn’t want to continue. She ended up hooking up with someone else after.