It happened pretty infrequently when I was younger, usually related to slight performance anxiety and lack of sensation by using a condom, but then started getting more regular about a year into my relationship. The emotion and affection Is there, but the excitement of fresh sexual experiences has worn off, and so that is a contributing issue, coupled with self-induced pressure to perform when I’m just not horny, though my libido is low in general, not just because of familiarity with my partner, so there may be some hormonal aspect, but I’m confident my issues are mainly psychological.
i was sleeping with this girl and my dick died. i’ve lost my sexual desire since this summer i feel anxious about it. Normaly when im sleeping with a girl i last for maybe 20-30 times and have a hard time cumming but im staying hard, but now i cum really fast and cant really stay hard for a extended period of time. Im seeing this girl, the most beautiful girl ive dated yet and personality wise i really like her and her values im afraid this will ruin our relationship because i cannot satisfy her sexually.
Not being able to enjoy my Honeymoon. mostly pre mature ehaculation
Not being able to enjoy my Honeymoon. mostly pre mature ehaculation
I have had several very disappointing experiences where I would be texting all this and that to a girl and she would get super excited but when it came time to do all of it, it just never worked. I have had this issue with multiple girls over the past few years and its very demeaning, absolutely makes you feel less of a man when you can’t preform. I recently had a girl that we planned on having sex and when we first tried it stood up for a little bit but went down very quickly. So I just gave her oral to try and distract her from the fact that I couldn’t preform. Then later the next morning after I had relaxed and calmed down, he stood up again. The girl thought this was the perfect time to finally have sex however the instant we started it went down again. Disappointing a girl twice in less then 8 hours is very embarrassing and demeaning to be honest.
The first time I tried to have sex, I remember going to put the condom on and then everything seemed to just shrink. It was an embarrassing moment but one I was able to play off. We ended up not having sex that evening and I almost feel like I have PTSD from it. I have not really been the same since then though and always seem to have a little doubt in any sexual experience I encounter. I have been able to overcome the doubt in waves but it is always there and does get the best of me more often than not.
Performance issues started after hitting a rough patch in my relationship of 3 years. Now struggling with maintaining an erection with any sexual activity. Every time we try, we both just feel so lousy
When I was about to have sex for the first time with my current girlfriend, I remember not getting hard when it came to her attempting to service me or us trying to have intercourse. In my head, I was like “what’s going on?” as I was very attracted to her and I remember our chemistry and initial connection being amazing. My penis just didn’t agree with me however. I kind of made up a lie to her, which in hindsight was maybe true. I told her that I was into energy and not just sharing it with anybody, so I told her to be patient with me. During a period of 2 weeks we did not have sex and I used it as a time to get my head straight. Eventually, after around 2 weeks of having that conversation with her, we eventually had sex and then from there for about 2 months we were all good in the bedroom. The major feeling during that time where I was figuring things out was pressure.Fast forward to about 3 months later, a period of time in which we hadn’t seen each other, we were about to get intimate on valentines day. For whatever reason I could not get it up again. The following day was awkward and filled with silence. For the remainder of 2021, our sex life was miserable, maybe only having sex like 6 times. I now sit here in February 2022 still trying to figure things out, hence why I am here.
Just last week. I was with someone who I KNEW well for years. We were anticipating having sex and when the opportunity finally presented itself, like the gentleman in the video, it’s like my penis decided to disappear. The woman was naked, beautiful, and waiting and I was just lying there with what felt like my penis had just gone inside out and refused to even think of getting erect. It was embarassing. Eventually, the woman I was with slowed it down, we did some foreplay, reverted back to kissing, and I was semi-hard to get some intercourse going, but it wasn’t fulfilling at all. It was almost like just being able to get inside for a few seconds was a victory I was willing to take. A “well, at least I had like 3 seconds of penetration”. Settling for less.
I never suffered ED issues with my girlfriend during my first serious relationship however, she was toxic and made me feel very insecure about my body and sexual capabilities. After this, I didn’t have sex for about two years. Fast forward to that first time and I met a really nice girl (who I’m no longer with) but I felt like she kept trying to rush me into sex… it was difficult because I hadn’t been in that position for a while. Each time she got a condom out it turned me off… I don’t like them and I have something associated with them that makes me soft. After a while, she called things off and one of the reasons was the sex. She claimed we’d given it a good go but we hadn’t really!I’m now with the love of my life who is so much more understanding of the issue but obviously want to be able to satisfy her sexually - as well as myself.
I sneaked into my girlfriend’s room one night , we made out , had oral sex and when I started to put my dick inside her, in that moment I lost the erection
Started seeing this woman I met online. We had a couple of fun dates, clicked, and everything seemed perfect. Third date go back to my house and we’re both turned on, she straddles me and I’m thinking “my dick isn’t hard, it should be hard right now and she should be feeling it through my clothes”. That started the whole thing. She felt like it was her and then I had to reassure her that it wasn’t her at all, but in fact it was me. I couldn’t even tell her why, because I didn’t know.
I got soft in a girl while we were having sex so I just had to pull out
The first time I had sex, I tried a couple of ties with no success, then after a bit of pressuring from her I tried the easy way out of viagra. I’d told a few of my close friends about my erection issues but one of them guessed I was taking viagra so he was the only one who knew. Later, when I was on LSD the girl shared this information with my friends! That was some time XD
Was on a night out with a big group of people from work, flirting with a co-worker throughout the night and I walked her home and she invited me in. After making out on her bed for a while, she decided to stop because she was recently out of a relationship and wasn’t ready that night. Little did she know I was still a virgin (23 years old at that time) and I was getting extremely nervous myself. So I stayed overnight and after leaving, we messaged a bit but didn’t meet up at all. That’s until another staff night out, and this time she’s flirting very heavily and letting me know fully that she wants to have sex tonight. And now I’m panicking because I’m aware that I’ve been escalating things by texting her but I’m still not over my fears about having sex. So eventually she comes back to mine, and the whole way there I’m just hoping that it will all be fine and I’ll know what to do when the time comes but after getting naked and making out on my bed, I just cannot get hard at all. So I have to tell her I’ve never had sex and I’m struggling to get hard when not masturbating. At first she was confused because she thought I had an erection when I went to hers the first time (nope) and then she said it’s okay, I shouldn’t be embarrassed etc but her disappointment was plain to see. We did meet up again a few times after this and tried again but no luck and it just fizzled, she ended up seeing someone else. It was such a shame because I really felt like we had a connection but we just couldn’t get over that hurdle
I had been having a thing with this girl from home over the summer whos 4 years younger than me 22-18 and everyone knew about us having a thing becaus its a small town. She gets covid and I go back to uni before we could have sex. we carry on talking, facetiming, i relaly liked her. I came back specifially to have sex with her and the opportunity came at a party. I couldnt get it up and we were in a room in the morning and I couldnt bare the thought of leaving that room. eventually we did everyone found out and everyone was taking the piss out of me as this always happens. so embarrassing i had to go back to uni and ofc she then wanted nothing to do with me when i next saw her
This all started about the end of my old relationship wherein, i felt less and less emotionally connected everyday which then led to me constantly overthinking when we tried to have sex. There was constant debate in my head everytime around ‘how do. i satisfy her for longer’ , ’ why am i here’, ‘she doesnt deserve this’, ‘i just need to get this done’ and a whole bunch of thoughts. it really didnt help. We are no longer together (not due to this) but several other factors. I want to move on and i just have the fear of the last couple of months.
Gay guy here. I lost my erection once when the guy I like tried to go down on me. I’ve always been nervous being dominant, and felt pressure to please him. Sometimes I lose my erection in the moments leading up to the act, but after relaxing it comes back. The same thing happens when I try to penetrate a guy. It may stem from fears of not lasting long enough, which happened a few times when I was younger. I find it is easier to keep an erection when I am not sober.
Met this really hot blonde girl at a college party. The first time I got too nervous and failed to get it up. I thought it was “whiskey dick”. Tried again with her completely sober a week later and it didn’t work again. She did not want to try again at that point, which I don’t blame her for. I was very distracted by this for several weeks afterwards.
Where do I even start. All of them have been kind of humiliating lol. My worst one was in a car. I started off giving her oral. Everything was fine, then she said “you have to fuck me”. Then I started having anxiety. So with the pressure on me, I started to go soft but pulled it out anyways. So I was just sitting there on top of her trying to get hard & it just never worked.