He’s like a bigger and better person looking down on me, and being disappointed at my actions
My inner critic is me worrying if I’m going to stay hard enough and long enough to finish with a climax. I sometimes think to myself that I’m not going to have enough energy to keep going and I will have to finish myself off instead of my partner making me climax.
My inner critic done want me to be happy
I am my own inner critic. I have no problems with interacting with women and even when I’m receiving oral I have no problems at all. It all goes south whenever when we’re about to have sex and the inside of my head is just telling me how I can’t stay hard and I’m going to finish to fast and I can’t please the woman
My inner critic is an older person that stands over me observing everything I do. Nothing I do is quite good enough. I am always disappointing to them. There is the expectation that I should exceed at everything but that is never the case. I have projected this onto all areas of my life including sex. I am reasonably good looking and relatively fit. People are attracted to me and should this begin to develop I am then certain it will end up in disappointment. ‘I’m not big enough, sexy enough, manly enough, kinky enough etc etc’
It’s myself. It’s a constant awareness and fear of not being and not being able to get hard. It psyches me out and has led me to essentially abstain from sexual encounters.
Scared
My Inner Critic is hyper vigilant. Foreplay is underway with cuddling, kissing, caressing.
My partner is responding in kind and making affirming, positive cues such as moaning of varying volume, body positioning to allow better access and more touch. I’m liking what I’m hearing, feeling, seeing. My Inner Critic is assessing, analysing, ‘reading’ the situation. Questioning am I doing this/that/those actions correctly, are this/that/those actions what she wants, how can you be sure, pay more critical attention, analyse, understand, evaluate, what’s likely outcome to be - successful/positive or not.
Try harder. My groin during this time is feeling dead to me. I can squeeze my pelvic floor muscles, feel it make my penis move. No erection. No pumping of blood into it. Now my Inner Critic is focused on why aren’t you showing physically that you’re aroused? What’s wrong with you? Get hard, damn you! You’re going to ruin it. She’ll feel like you’re not interested in her. You’ll have to work twice as hard for any future opportunity at having sex. When she reciprocates by touching / caressing my groin, there’s no erection, Inner Critic is in overdrive - your soft, she’s up for it, where are you? What’s her reaction, across every spectrum to you being flaccid? Analyse, assess, work harder to keep her aroused and happy. When it comes to intercourse, it has now often become a challenge to get more than a partial erection. Inner Critic is running amuck. Sometimes penetration can triumph over Inner Critic. However any change, distraction and the game often is very quickly over long before orgasm is on the radar.
My inner critic like makke something faster,
My inner critic is myself. It focuses on the fact thag I will either cum fast or loose my erections the second anything changes in the moment. The second I screw anything up (made an awkward move, something she didn’t like as much etc), it’s gone. The inner critic keeps focusing on doing what she told me she liked, causing me to think of that only and not live in the moment. Then we’re down the rabbit hole.
My inner critic is a voice just like mine - it always starts by asking myself, "what if I can’t get hard’ or “what if my dick doesn’t work”. I always try and answer these questions that my inner critic asks me with a rational approach but it seems to always fail. I can never find an answer that provides a real solution to my inner critics problems. I then always just overthink it and the cycle repeats.
I start off great and into it and at some point my inner thoughts get in the way takes me out of the moment. Anxious. I have this feeling of not being able to satisfy my wife.
My inner critic is myself. The feeling of sex or foreplay excites me, but I also begin to hear myself telling me that I will under perform as soon as those sensations begin.
Comparing me with other previous lovers
My inner critic has only recently begun to get louder.
Before my issues, I have been having the best sex in my life, both quality and quantity.
Experiencing some amazing new things with great women.
But lately it’s just not working as it had been. And once you can’t perform, the mental game begins. Self doubt which manifests into poor erections.
My inner critic tells me that I am scared to even go with a girl that I might not be able to get er action when I am with her
My inner critic is myself, and is very positive and confident during foreplay, but maybe focuses too much on pleasing her. When it comes to penetrative sex it says things like “we’re not used to condoms, this just isn’t going to work” “we’re gonna go soft again” “you’re a cuck”
My inner critic tells me to relax and be calm. But my body tenses up during foreplay and I feel that is what causes me not to achieve an erection. I feel like I’m always tense before and during sex.
My inner critic is a version of me, the version that doubts me. He tells me that I can’t, or I won’t or that there’s no use in trying. He’s the less confident, anxious version of me. He makes me doubt my ability to please my partner and question my self- confidence and self worth. He makes me feel bad for losing focus and for being disengaged. And tells me how my partner must be so disappointed in me. Hearing him makes sex harder and less enjoyable for me and my partner
I think my inner critic is myself. It tells me “alright man, you better get real hard and be ready to satisfy this woman”. A few moments later I hear it say “cmon she is ready to be penetrated and you are still not hard, she I going to think your a loser” it tells me to hurry and get hard. I get nervous of she will think and it happens I cannot get hard