Definitely consume too much out of boredom, concerned it’s skewing my expectations and giving me death grip
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Between self soothing and craving novelty, I keep using porn to relieve myself and find I’m way less anxious with it and as a result make the gap between porn use and sex in terms of anxiety way too big and scary to go into sex comfortably. Not to mention death grip severely hindering feeling during sex
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I’m happy to have read something about the self-soothing aspect. Porn, and more specifically masturbating to porn, has been a decades long go to for stress management. It makes it hard (no pun intended…sadly lol) to enjoy sex irl because I’m used to porn being there to satisfy my stress
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That porn isn’t an addiction in the same way drugs are. That simple fact was empowering in my ability to stop
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Agreed. Porn is also easier than sex lol
Setting unrealistic expectations about my partner and especially myself like you need at least an 8incher in order to satisfy a woman. Interesting about the turkey baster full of water that makes women squirt. I’ve always wanted to make a woman squirt but I see that’s not really real and most women can’t actually squirt
The unrealistic standards and that porn present make me insecure in my own body. It also skews my view of what sex should be. I think stopping all together is key.
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I feel like watching porn would somehow be equal to visual cheating, as in, I do not wish to indulge in it on my own. But I want to watch it with my wife cuz I feel she’s hornier that way, or somehow more dirty. Still it feels good that I don’t have to compare myself with those guys anymore.
I really want to appreciate myself more, I think somewhere deep down I’m too self conscious about being enough.
Self soothing is my go to reason anymore, and I’ve found it’s mainly to prime the pump more than finish the job. I dont have to watch it to get off, but it seems like anymore it helps get the physical part started. once I’m primed, I usually cut it off and go somewhere else to finish up with my own fantasies, which as of late often involve my wife and me. Now if I could just map that fantasy performance to reality, I’d be set.
I tend to watch porn that shows fantasies I know I’ll likely never live out with my wife. Usually I finish without porn but fantasizing about doing those acts with my wife. I’m not sure if that’s creating the erection issues I’m having
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I masterbate to porn to help relieve stress. I know it’s not good for me, but it’s so accessible.
I also feel anxious in previous sexual encounters with partners, so porn is a release without anxiety.
I feel as if I’m not worthy of a sexual experiences with partners because I can’t satisfy them.
It definitely could the the reason y. Ur feeding ur brain with all this arousal so when u don’t experience it ur not turned on.
I use it to bridge the gap between my libido, however if I use porn and my wife is interested in sex it then leads to a poor experience for both of us.
I went over a year without it and I always feel so much more alert. If I was to watch I’d try to do it with my partner.
I realise that the link between porn and sexual issues is all in my head, and that I can enjoy porn in a healthy way
I think for me it’s been less what i’m watching and more the fact of watching it, like if im watching it im “safe” to jack off, although it doesnt give me the satisfaction or arousal that its suposed to. It’s mechanic, so i think i dont have to quit watching porn, just watch it more mindfully and taking it in and not just cosuming it.
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Watching porn on my own gives me an erection but with my wife I’m nervous about getting it up. And this feeds on itself and upsets her and makes me even more nervous.
I would like to completely cut out porn from my life as I recognise that it is a problem for me. I have learnt that you cannot be addicted to porn
For me I watch porn because it feels good in a low pressure environment. While I still have sex with my girlfriend, I notice I’ll feel guilty if I masturbated in the last day or two and usually that leads to psychological ED, which now makes me link porn with that. If I don’t watch porn I feel like my erections are better but I understand a lot of this can be the mental mindset and not necessarily the porn.