I’ve used porn to help procrastinate or for a dose of dopamine after fighting with parents. I need to learn how not to use it for such reasons but only when I’ve been productive and want to relive sexual stress, or normal stress. And also watch diverse porn not the weird kinks I have.
I think i need to retire how i view porn. I used to watch it a lot and started feeling guilty which was when i started having trouble maintaining an erection. there were a few times that i was able to get hard and stay hard and finish so i definitely don’t have ed. but even after i stopped watching completely i still had the mindset that watching it messed me up so i would still have some trouble so maybe if i change my relationship with it it’ll get better
I feel like porn has been my go-to if ever feeling bored, lonely or just looking for a mental fix that comes with orgasming during the day. I’ve let this become a habit, up to three times a day which has disassociated me when it comes to having sex with my partner. I feel like I will never have the sense of satisfaction I get from masterbating to porn to having sex with my partner. This needs to shift. Until then, I plan on refraining from my daily porn usage. When things improve with me sexually in bed, I may occasionally use porn as an escape—not a replacement of what I have in the bedroom.
The fact I can get hard and cum while watching porn but struggle to maintain an erection with my partner scares me. I’m going to refrain from watching porn from now on. It gives a false image of sex and bodies in general
I compare myself to the guy and feel bad for girls I have sex with because I can’t perform as well
I used to watch porn and masturbate everytime my relationship felt stressed or she said no, which was often. I felt grotesque and like I didn’t perform well enough in real life. I’ve given up the frequent porn to once every week or two, but I’m still struggling to get hard and relax with real women.
The earlier quote about using the guitar instead of masterbation/porn to self-sooth or relieve boredom is perfect. That’s my goal 
I feel lots of shame after watching porn in terms of some of the more extreme stuff and also the amount of it. Often for me it was procrastinate from doing things. I’ve definitely found that I’m better at getting stuff done now that I’ve managed not to watch for a month but finding that my libido is much lower? I’m hoping it will come back.
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I don’t watch Porn , it can go past days at somepoint months
I use to watch porn every day, even when I wasn’t turned on. I would do it because I was bored or to pass time. When I watched porn I would it take my time and I would finish quickly, which I feel led to PE in real life situations. I have stopped watching porn all together for the last 3 months, hopefully this will help.
I watch it to try and stimulate erection. When I then doesn’t happen and it’s not completely hard when I finish. It pisses me off. Makes me feel less.if a.man.
Porn has been a way to get my anxiety out and sleep better. Probably hurt me in the long run cuz I can’t keep an erection cuz that’s how it’s gotta look.
My story began with porn begun when I was around 13 y/o, at that point in time I have had some sexual thoughts but, I never knew what masturbation or having an orgasm was, not to mention that I didn’t even understand what those terms meant nor even what the point of masturbation was. When I heard my classmates talk about it, it made me curious about what it was or how would it feel to experience it. So I tried it and instantly got quite addicted to that first-time feeling so, I began chasing it, time after time throughout the years; to the point where I was unable to stop masturbating and trying new categories, fantasies or fetishes. That led me to constantly masturbate, in more compulsive ways, beginning from once a week to 5 days a week to, 3 to 5 times a day (not all days of the week but, some). So from 13y/o to 20y/o that compulsive use of porn kept dragging me into an endless spiral of loving the feeling, feeling guilty, wanting to change, and repeating the same cycle. Now, I had the chance to have sex with my GF that I really like and feel attracted to but, wasn’t able to achieve an erection or if got it, it shaded away quite fast at the time of penetration. A couple of days ago we tried to have sex and oral sex was amazing and could keep it up and enjoy every single sensation of it. But, when we moved on to penetration it went completly soft. So, I think that the use of porn that I used to have drove me to soften my erections or to need more stimuli to have hard erections, it increased my anxiety levels in real-life sex and all of this has led me to feel incomplete. I completly quit porn some months ago, and started masturbating with her online but, I now feel that my libido it’s in a very low level compared to how I used to feel when watching porn.
Started off at 13 watching porn for arousal and because it felt great, now at 24 I just watch porn because I’m bored, works a bit stressed, to go to sleep silly stuff like that even if I’m not engaged in what I’m watching. Sometimes I even cum when I’m not fully hard just to get it over and done with but I don’t get that sensation I once did
I think covid fucked me over. Spent a lot of time (and tissues) watching porn because I didn’t have much else to do as a 15/16 year old. And at the same time I wasn’t going out and having my own sexual experiences.
I’ve had a reliant relationship with porn in the past. Right now, it’s a cure of procrastination. I need to use it less and have begun to use it when horny and a tool for edging.
I don’t think porn is a problem for me. I occasionally use it to blow off steam. Sometimes I worry that if I masturbate, then that could effect my ability to get an erection an hour or two later when I am with my wife.
I’ve used to self soothe for a long time. Now I get erections much easier from porn than partnered sex, which ruins my confidence in bed and takes the fun out of it. I want to find new ways to overcome anxiety that don’t have a negative impact on my confidence. I’d like to try masturbation without porn and see how that makes me feel…
I want to quit cold turkey for a year to 6 months tbh. I think it’s unnecessary. I want to get a hard erection from just looking at a picture of my girlfriend instead.
i want to forget the images I see in porn and instead get aroused more by real life stuff
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