I don’t have shame for porn or masturbating, but over the years I found myself watching more and more kink based porn - not what I would enjoy in real life - and then post nut clarity I’m like “ugh” but then I’ll do the same. Vanilla porn does less and less for me. I want to be able to enjoy seeing normal, sensual, “romantic” porn - more like the sort of sex that I want to have
Idk if porn is necessarily a problem for me. I think porn is less anxiety producing than actual sex. Maybe that’s why it’s easier to get & keep and erection watching porn.
porn doesn’t feel like much of an issue for me, it is less stressful than sex which is why it’s easier to maintain an erection - but i think it’s probably better to just quit it altogether anyhow
I want to stop comparing myself with porn
I want to stop having unhealthy expectations of how sex should be because of what you see in porn. Everyone is different and do what makes me and my partner happy
I want to leave porn alone in the mornings and focus on my goals. I want to focus on my diet and exercise program and be in great shape when i go up north.
I only use porn as a means to get horny. My biggest issue is low libido. It’s like nothing gets me horny and usually prior to sex I’ll watch multiple videos in an attempt to feel horny going into the sexual encounter. If I could attain a typical or even slightly below average male sex drive I’d likely only watch porn on rare occasions or not at all. I don’t compare myself or my partner to what I see and I don’t feel guilt or shame over porn use.
I went 8 years in my current relationship totally without porn and had the same issues that I do now the whole time. I honestly feel like it’s helped me gain comfort with the topic of sex.
I want to cut back on porn to save my cravings and drive for my partner. I feel I have been radicalized to look for more kinky and exciting sexual displays through porn than the relatively vanilla experiences I have with my partner.
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When I feel sad, depressed or bored, I will pick up my phone, watch porn and masturbate. This would make me feel better temporarily. But along with that would come the guilt of watching porn. I need to substitute my porn watching with better habits like microlearning. I need to change my view of porn from not being shameful but rather that it it natural to want to watch it every now and again. I want to be able to save my arousal for my partner and be present and focused on her in the moment. Use her as my visual cue and stimulation.
I want to unlearn the association that if I’ve cum with porn during the day that I’ll somehow be unable to cum if I have sex that night. I know I can cum a lot more that one time a day if I’m alone so I need to break the connection I feel between my healthy porn usage and sex.
Porn is a problem for me because of the strong feelings of guilt, shame, and anxiety I’m left with after I finish. I also use it compulsively. Even though I know I am going to feel low after and be down on myself, I still use it to satisfy my urge.
Hopefully this isn’t an unrealistic goal but I’d like to eliminate porn watching completely and rely on imaginary imagery and fantasies in my head. If porn was a tool in the bedroom for sex I’d certainly consider it but for myself, I’d like to only use my imagination.
I’d like to think this will leave me feeling less shame, guilt, and anxiety and maybe boost my sexual confidence.
Wayching porn and masturbation has become my habit whenever i am bored and i feel like it has become a problem for me because everytime i have a free time porn is my first option and it made me feel guilty and made me think why can’t i just do something better with my time
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Not into porn anymore. I was when I was younger
I stopped watching porn a few months ago. After reading through this lesson, I think I want to start again with the goal of discovering some more of my turn ons. Was not expecting to be convinced to watch porn again
I need to cut down on my porn use. And just because i watch it once or twice a week doesn’t mean it’s unhealthy and this is something i need to learn.
I have to work on feeling better about it.
Also only want to watch it during the night time
Porn has been a problem in my life for many years. I’m in my mid-40s and it has been a problem since my teenage years. I started having erectile dysfunction issues in my mid 20s.
I am recently divorced, and have started dating again. Two times in a row my partner and I started to get intimate, but I could not achieve an erection. I was even taking Cialis.
A few days after the second failed attempt, I had a long conversation with her about my past and I struggles. it didn’t go well.
I have since quit cold turkey watching porn. It has been three weeks, which doesn’t seem like much, but it’s far and away my longest streak. Not sure how long this erectile dysfunction will last, but my goal is to follow this program and remove porn.
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I think I’ve started to rely on porn to feel sexually confident. It feels good knowing I can get hard and last long with porn, but I feel more confident with porn than I do in the bedroom. I need to learn how to transfer that confidence away from the screen and into my real life.
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I want to get as hard with a woman as I do when watching porn. If that involves staying with watching it or avoiding it, I’m fine with either strategy. I just want to feel confident and masculine with her when it’s time to have sex.
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While going through a divorce porn and masturbation has been my only outlet for 18 months. I now have met someone beautiful and in three opportunities I have not been able to get or maintain an erection. It is very upsetting
I rarely use porn. I like the real thing. The last week or so, I’ve been using it a little to test my erection to prove I can get it completely hard before going to have sex with my girlfriend. I had a 1/2 chub episode with her the other day and it freaked me the fuck out. So I’m in panic mode.