Everytime my inner critic tells me that I won’t enjoy sex, I won’t get turned on and I won’t get it up, my inner coach will remind me of all the times I’ve loved sex, how I’ve got it up hundreds of times before compared to the measly 4 times I couldn’t and how I am capable of getting turned on, I’ve just paired sex with anxiety
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I’ve attached pleasure and pain centers in my body to a point where, recently, my inner critic has the power to just shut down the pleasure center in fear of being let down by my body. In its place, the inner coach needs to be more present in the moment, that these moments are not exams and are instead for fun, and to focus on the pleasure
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I will try to give myself more credit for the past successes that my inner coach is trying to remind me.
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I will lean more into my inner coach and tell myself that my inner critic will no longer make me feel bad or anxious.
I will use my inner coach to encourage me and remind me that things do get better and improve, even if they take time
I need to embrace the inner coach to remind me to be present and enjoy sensations instead of being afraid and distant in situations
Not sure about their arguments but the inner coach has my back while the inner critic “thinks” it has my back.
Inner coach reassures me about my ability to fix things in the long term. He gives me permission to take a break from something in the moment that is too hard
There is a ln actual physical reaction to activating the coach. I was shocked that I could feel the change
I enjoy hearing my inner coach totally obliterate my inner critic when he comes on the scene. I kind of picture it like a bully (inner coach) picking on a younger brother (me) in a very mean way only to have the big brother (inner coach) take the bully out verbally and to then reassure myself everything is fine and that the inner coach doesn’t want what’s best for me during sex.
My inner coach believes I’m inherently worthy regardless of my experience of failure or being rejected. He tells me that there is nothing I need to say or do in order to prove my worthiness to the world, and that I don’t need external validation to feel intrinsically good about myself.
This was the first time I saw myself as the inner coach
My inner coach strikes fear into my inner critic. I picture my inner critic as Scar and my inner coach as Mufasa. And I’m adult Simba. I’ll use my inner coach to quiet my inner critic by calling upon it whenever I sense my inner critic or notice a trigger that could bring my inner critic out.
This was the first time i saw myself as the inner coach and it was quite empowering. He felt confident and like he wasn’t taking any of the bullshit that the inner critic was saying. I felt a calm ease because of it and he took me outside of myself to focus on actionable steps
Diddnt think that there was a coach only a innercritic so that was cool to discover
It felt nice to finally get a good idea of my Coach rather than only knowing my critic, now I’ll listen to my Coach before my Critic
I will continue to allow my inner coach to help me ignore the inner critic. It’s been a blessing thus far.
It felt emotional. I cried a wee bit
It felt hard to materialize my inner coach, which makes me realize how prevalent my critical self is in my day to day, and especially when it comes to intimacy. I need to retrain my inner voice like a muscle, putting in as much positivity and confidence as possible.
When we can use our own voice to manage our reactions, the inner critic holds less power and influence over us. If our own voice does not carry enough influence over our reaction, then the inner coach is a great tool to rely on in order to help us talk down the inner critic.