the negative effects is that it makes me wonder and doubt if its contributing to my erection problems even though i rarely watch porn. the positive is the relaxation and how it makes me feel
I’m not really comfortable masterbating because of religious background but I am willing to keep working on sensetizing my body and mind. I want to take the pressure off sex and learn to enjoy all parts of it
Relief, relaxing, negatives are no emotional connection.
It definitely helps me relax, but I’m sure I become attuned to it. Which is okay, just not what I’m going for.
I have desensitized areas of my penis as a result of masturbation. Normal sex doesn’t give me the sensations I want. Without sensation, I just don’t get hard. It takes more effort to get me hard. The extra effort then makes me frustrated. Now I’m distracted and trying to make myself hard. Sex has become stressful, exhausting and disappointing. I’ve been trapped inside my head fir too long. I just want to relax and enjoy the thoughts and sensations. Then allow my body to naturally react with a hardon. Oh, that’s the other thing…I can’t tell if I’m hard or not without touching and gripping my penis. I’m constantly wondering if I’m hard or not and have to check to make sure. Of course, if I was hard, I lose it the second I reach down to check. It’s a vicious cycle! Masturbation is the only time I don’t have to worry so much. I just want to be that confident guy that just leans back and let’s his partner have their way with almost no extra effort on my part because my penis is rock hard and loving the attention. Yep, that’s where porn has given me more anxiety trying to measure up in bed. I know it’s all in my head and I can retrain myself with practice.
Positive: It feels good and since I am alone, I dont have the chronic performance anxiety that I experience during partner sex.
Negative: I tend to always jack off quickly and get it over with. I think this is definitely contributing to my ED with my partner. If I dont get hard right away, I panic. I also feel disappointed if I only produce a small amount of cum and am afraid that it’s due to aging (I’m 59).