What are some of the positive and negative effects of masturbation for you?

Positive: It can be a form of self love. I think it can allow someone to explore themselves, and enjoy themselves. And when coupled with someone else, its a great turnon for the other person to see that you are comfortable with your own body, and enjoy your body. Negative: It can become compulsive. And its possible to use it as a coping mecanism when faced with strong emotions. Sadsturbation is real guys!

Positives - stress relief, fun, find out more about what I like, pleasuringNegatives - I donā€™t have a ā€˜death gripā€™, though I think at one point I may have, but I think I have got used to the sensation of masturbation rather than penetrative sex which makes it hard for me to finish in bed. I feel like porn may also have given me a fake image about what sex should be - what I watch / fantasize about when watching porn I know is not the reality of sex in real life. However, after being single for a long time I have got used to getting off on certain kinks etc which I think is another reason I experience ED during sex. Most of the fantasies I wouldnā€™t even want to do in real life.

makes me connect to myself more and exercise those thoughts but it desensitizes me to sex sometimes. I feel abstinence to a point is good. Itā€™s helped in the past

Positive effect: creating the feeling of relief, and reducing stressNegative: Feeling shameful afterwards, feeling guilt

I felt at some points i was addicted to masturbating, to even some points id prefer it to actually having sex. Id do it even when not horny, it was like a routine for me. I would then find it hard to be turned on by anything else.

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positive: makes me feel excited and relaxed. gives me pleasurenegative: makes me king of relying to mastrubation for pleasure and not actual sex. feel guilty of getting more pleasure from mastrubation rather than actual sex with my partner

Masturbation has become the only way I can get aroused

It makes me feel good in the moment.It might make getting it up more difficult in the end.

I think having been single for 5 years, I may have desensitised my penis to sex, and have gotten used to being aroused by my own touch

Masturbation allows me to have a better understanding of the sensations that go through my penis.

Self-soothing, for sure. It gave relief from stress. I wanted nonstop as a teenager in a home of emotional neglect. By default, I will watch either porn or war films to distract from my disregulated emotions. A pretty poor, habitual strategy, Iā€™ve come to see. I tried to give up masturbation feeling both desire and anxiety towards sex. Overtime, I saw this mind-body disconnect and started to look for understanding and strategies. Masturbation has its place now and quite often approach it as a meditation, grounding in my body, recalibrating towards my senses and sensation.

Positive effects was it was a stress relief. Negative was that sometimes I wouldnā€™t get the relief which I needed and it would send me in a down spiral. Sometimes I couldnā€™t even get erect.

Positives are relaxation.Negatives are reliance on porn itself to get hard.

Pros last longerCons less sensitive

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Death gripPorn became the go to space for me to achieve orgasm.My sexual relationship with my wife was non existent as a result of not feeling aroused around her, performance anxiety and shame if porn addiction (as I saw it) so porn was my only release.It acted as a stress reliever, but also made me feel ashamed and dirty, thereby increasing the anxiety.

Positive: Makes me feel good when I feel down (at least in the moment)Negative: Feeling of guilt afterwards, as I believe my extreme porn watching habits are negatively impacting my erection quality.

Positive:Release of stress and negative feelingsCalming and it feels adventurousOrgasmicNegative:Reliance on it for the calming effect (needing to do it to sleep)Feeling more comfortable masturbating then being intimate with partner

Some negative aspects of porn and masturbation has made it sometimes when having sex with my partner, i feel detached or not in the moment with my partner, sometimes thinking about images of that porn while having sex.

Stress release and being present in the moment vs feeling shame and using it as a distraction.

Masturbation helps me to relieve stress and to feel good about myself. I get scared about my masturbation technique and if it will effect having sex with a partner. I go weeks without masturbating in the hope it will help me to get a better an erection.