My wife and I have recently start to try for a kid. She’s been very diligent to use the Mira program to know when she’s is most fertile. Mostly the most fertile date has been a huge help and hurtle. I can’t get it up on these days when it’s highest. I can’t wait tell if it’s just mental, or also from trying mutiple days leading up to this. It feels like we can do 3 maybe 4 times in a week but after that, good luck. I feel like it’s timing too but also mental. Looking for any advice.
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I am in the same boat, and for me it’s getting over the realisation that sex becomes a chore. Me and my wife have kinda thrown the reference out the window in favour of more spontaneous and fun sex. This is on the back of seeing a consultant who said it’s more likely to happen with regular intercourse. Scheduling “that time of the month” (for me) schedules performance anxiety
Don’t stress! Father of 4 here, I’ve struggled a few times when we were trying as well. Maybe try holding off a bit until she’s closer to the peak days or other ways to make it not feel like a chore. I know, having daily sex for awhile sounds great in theory, but when your exhausted and aren’t into it some days it definitely was a chore, get in and out as quick as possible. Having sex more may also get your body used to it, so it may not be a bad thing, but don’t stress if it’s not working.
Also don’t get stressed out about it in general (it’s a big exciting step, but this can also stress you out). The first time we were going to “try” for our first, it ended in a huge fight because I was so nervous… by the time we were trying for number 3 I had developed a breeding kink… which is how we got number 4!
After 3 years of trying sometime everyday, i did start doing every two day, now i have problems staying up and only finish fast, good thing is getting better eith ED problem, af for kid going for IVF. Good luck to all of you