I have been with my fiancé for over 4 years. I hadn’t had much sex before meeting her and we took it slow (because of me). After a while I started to try to have sex and would fail sometimes but every now and then I would have success. I even ejaculated twice and one day we had sex 3 times. There were days I would wake up and knew that I would be able to have sex that day. However, we have not had sex in 2 years now. I have tried pills and different things but I can’t seem to break the mental barrier and it seems like I know I won’t be able to get hard before it even happens. I do not watch porn anymore and have really focused on just try to please her and be ready for the moment but so far I am struggling and I do not want to lose her. I am hoping this app helps me get over that hurdle and any advice is greatly appreciated.
In a relationship the honeymoon phase lasts at most 2 years, so having less sex natural sex drive is normal. However, you should still try to have sex and/or intimacy regularly. This does not usually happen by itself but takes work and commitment. Try starting to be intimate with your partner again, ideally about 2 days per week. You can try sensate focus if you are not ready for sex yet because of your erection issues.
Meanwhile try to work on your mental ED using the app or a therapist. Given that your partner is supportive and plays along, things will improve.
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