So last night around midnight and went over to this girls place, super hot started making out I went down on her And then after, she’s like I’m my turn. So we kept kissing and she wanted to go down with her hands but my hand wouldn’t let her like it pulled her away she tried 2 more times and I just wouldn’t let her…
I’m 19 and I only had sex a few time with another girl when I was drunk.
Before I went to hers she was telling me all these sex stories and that she doesn’t want a small dick blah blah but I have like average or just under.
I don’t know what to do, she’s like what’s wrong with you any other guy thinks with the dick.
Do you have any advice?
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I think some females have lost sensitivity to the situation of sex just know you are normal and that a lot of sex is tied to emotion if it’s a girl your not really into emotionally or things she said make you feel some type of way sex becomes harder to do. At least from my point of view sex is not something you just do with anyone a way I like to think about it sometimes is would I let this person use my toothbrush if no then for me there not worth such an intimate relationship
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Thank you so much, like the first part of today I was feeling so down about it but I really appreciate your message it’s changing my perspective
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I dont understand, so did your dick not go up, were you just nervous, insecure of size, or just not really feeling it? Either way, its normal, ive turned down my fair share of opportunities. Theres nothing wrong with you, and the other guy is right, its the closest 2 people can get you shouldnt do it if its not a “hell yes” imo
Tbh honest I think by now „female empowerment“ has gotten somewhat over the top that women often miss the point of having sex.
Which I’d say is emotionally intimacy.
Instead they are seeking for some kind of revenge in terms of objectification, sexual harassment etc.
It makes no sense at all.
Another possibility is that the girl actually likes you a lot but she cannot admit it because, for example, it makes her feel dependent or weak. Then they often use to objectify the person they like to emotionally engage with, because it opens the possibility of sex without being confronted with her own emotions and feelings about you.
I am 28 now and have experienced that a lot. I am also somewhat interested in girls with an uneasy background and that is what I have often experienced with them.
With some I have overcome them, and we became emotionally engaged while having sex.
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Why didnt you let her at least massage you? 1) even if you weren’t hard, that might have gotten you hard. 2) even if its not hard it can still feel good.
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Tried again last night and it did feel good 
but like after eating her out and fingering her I was so focused on making her cum I went soft, like we were in the shower together getin at it but then we moved to the bed and soft
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Great Job bro. You didn’t let challebges from your 1st time with her scare you from trying again! Also, use this as a confidence boost. She wanted more from you and remained attracted to you. Thats a win! Its great that you’re focused on her needs. Keep that up! Its Ok to focus on what you want too .Communicate with her. When you’re fooling around in the shower and you’re hard, tell her how turned on you are and that you that want to slide it in now! Hearing you say that might be a turn on to her. It sounds like shes into you have fun With her and enjoy the journey as you level up​:clap:
Not sure if this is a repeat. good job not getting scared off after the challenges the first time with this girl. She wanted more from you amd you went back for more both wins. It’s great that you are focused on pleasing her, but focus on your needs too. When youre fooling around in the shower, communicate with her tell her you’re hard and turned on and want to slide it in NOW. She’ll probably be turned on hearing that. If the opportunity arises with your erection, take it, then refocus on her. Nice job. Keep having fun with her. Enjoy the journey as you level up.