Reading the posts on here it’s almost like polyamory and swinging is mainstream? Maybe it’s much more common than I think, I don’t think anyone in my friendship group is, or at least not openly anyway. I must over sensitive or narrow minded, but the idea of it actually turns my stomach and makes me anxious. Like my worst fear would be my beautiful wife one day asking for polyamory. It’s a shame as reading success stories on here has really helped me, but then some threads really make me anxious. Think I’ll just stick to the exercises and steer clear of the forums. No judgement, you do you.
I think you’re right, each to their own, but it does seem relatively common? Hard to know how whether that’s realistic though! We had friends who opened their relationship and it really messed things up. I’m sure I’d feel the same as you if asked about it!
Hi there! I share your vision. It makes me anxious too. I don’t want to share my partner, at least not on the emotional scale. Sex with more people, why not, if we get there, but sharing my love, I can’t.
But to be honest, I haven’t read many post about polyamour on this forum, and most post are great individual success stories of men willing to have a greater connection with their partner! I love the forum. It helps me connect with all of you in a way, knowing that I’m not alone, and that many of us face similar problems. Dont give up on the forum, it’s a great part of this whole process.
I cant separate sex and love in my mind, maybe im old fashioned but i still talk to my wife about “making love”
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Me and my partner are in an open relationship and have been together for 13 years. It’s true that it is not for everyone and that there’s also many different levels of openness or polyamory. I would say that if you’re ever curious about it, is very important that you communicate your desires to your partner and are willing to listen to theirs too, get to a consensus on how you want to do it, what rules you want to put in place so that none of you gets hurt, and give it a try. Start together and see how it makes you feel, and if you ever feel confident enough, start playing separately. Just don’t push something that you’re think you’re not gonna enjoy, but always communicate these feelings openly!