First time with someone always creates an anxiety it’ll happen.
Being in a car. The pressure I get right before sticking it in like if I’m fearing it won’t work even if I’m already erect. When my penis comes out and I have to put it back in. Those situations give me anxiety that can make things worse
Undressing and fire play. It’s tge anticipation of sex.
Condoms specifically, he hit the nail on the head with the video
Fear of STIs
Fear of not getting a good erection
Going from foreplay to sex. Causes anxiety
Putting on the condom, the feeling that I’m about to climax but my partner isn’t quite there yet.
Transition from foreplay to intercourse is also one situation.
When she asks me to get behind her and switch positions I usually go soft
I’m gay and top, which means I get into my own head when I have to lube up. Past partners have always treated it as a solo activity and it often involves us separating and a lot of moving around. most of my favourite activities during sex - mutual touching, kissing, foreplay - come to an end and there’s this gap where I have to “get ready”. Because then I’m focussing on keeping hard and watching my penis while I do so, I often lose the erection and find it hard to come back without a significant period of new foreplay. This has been difficult with past partners as sometimes then they lose the mood.
Putting condoms on
I am almost always initiating sex with my wife - she rarely turns me down but I feel it is up to me to start things - with that it usually involves oral sex for her first and then on to intercourse after that - but by that time I am soft or at best semi hard from focusing or what I think is focusing on getting her to orgasm and we have to try find a position for penetration
i feel this too!
I can maintain an erection during foreplay, oral sex, and teasing by just rubbing the tip of my penis against a clitoris. But when it time for full penetration I will lose my erection before I am able to penetrate to soon after penetration. If I relax after losing my erection I can regain my erection and finish but it depends on the situation. Sometimes it takes 2 tries before staying hard, sometimes it just wont stay hard.
The pressure to get on with it or it will be boring for her does often start the negative process.
I’ve used viagra which always gives me a rock hard erection I always feel confident when I have had one and as a result get much hornier. Now when I haven’t had a pill I get anxious that my erection won’t he as strong, and then it makes it even weaker. So in summary… any time I don’t have a blue pill now I am anxious and that’s killing my boner.
I used viagra to overcome performance anxiety but now I get anxious any time I don’t use the viagra. Weirdly if I have the viagra for evening sex I am still fine this next morning even though it typically only lasts 4 hours. The times I can’t get it up and keep it up is when I have had no viagra at all. I don’t think it’s a physical issue as can often masturbate fine without viagra and get nice and hard. So basically now any time I am with my gf and don’t use viagra I am anxious and that has the effect of killing my boner.
Foreplay is normally fine, but as soon as its time to have sex that’s when it feels like the pressure to perform kicks in… I feel like there’s too much attention on me and making sure it can go in…
during foreplay
My first time with a person, Transitioning from foreplay to intercourse, awkward moments, getting slightly soft, basically the whole thing lol
Staying hard or wanting to last longer.