One night stands I find difficult - taking a stranger to bed to get naked where you are your most vulnerable. Also, the condom time - I always wear a condo because I’ve have an instilled fear of STI or pregnancy - it terrifies me.
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There are a couple of moments I get this type of anxiety. For me it can be before or as soon as we start kissing, or if we make it past foreplay it can definitely happen when my pants come off, or when it is time for penetration. Often times I get into panic mode before sexual activity starts. I get hot in my stomach and start spectatoring and panic mode sets in. Once she notices a problem I definitely get anxiety. Also needs to be noted these occur a lot in one night stand situations, with alcohol involved. My anxiety makes it hard to be confident enough for a relationship to make it past this phase, even though I am young and in my prime. I am only in my 3rd day of this type of therapy and I do feel more hope than I have in a while!
The most common situation for me that triggers performance anxiety is the transition between foreplay and sex, but specifically the thought that whoever I’m seeing then and there may not be genuinely interested in me as a person. This is a silly thing being as I tend towards hookups but there’s something so paralyzing about knowing whether it goes well or not it’s over either way!
Foreplay, blowjobs mainly as handjobs are more pressure
Putting on a condom.
Taking the pants off … lol its not really the pants being taken off its more the vulnerabiltiy i show when i take them off.
Trying new positions. Penetration can do it as well. So worried i wont stay hard once inside her. Transitioning from foreplay to intercourse.
Definitely putting on condoms. Also anytime that stimulation ends really. The transition from oral to penetration. Even just a minute usually kills things.
Waiting for my partner to be in the mood. When I come in fast and hard, she will say she’s not ready and I physically have a hard time figuring out where the penis goes, because her vagina is tight and closed. And that really puts me off, I feel like I finally got the erection I need to get the party started and she says she’s not ready.
The pause in stimulation in order to take a break, go get the condom, open it and put it in while not being able to maintain a full erection just puts too many thoughts rather doubts in my head at the time and things take a downward spiral quite literally
Just wanna fuck her no condom
Sometimes change of environment.
putting on a condom is the worst thing ever, thats where all i can think about is that im not being stimulated and if im dick isn’t hard i can’t put the condom on
The thought of failure
making out for too long and lose that sexual desire due to a resistance in making the first move or thought of my partner making the first move or feeling uncomfortable
Poppers, receiving oral
Whenever my girlfriend and I invite another woman into bed, I get performance anxiety and am unable to get an erection.
Basically anything that makes me think too much can make me lose my erection. This can be a break to get lube, distracting conversation, some mishap, or even attention moving entirely on me like with oral sex.
Usually during the transition from foreplay to intercourse when I lose my erection, it become note hard enough to continue with penetration
When I’m trying to get it in. If it doesn’t go in the first time and smoothly, I get in my head about it and I lose my erection.