Last night I had sex for the first time in at least 15 months and managed to maintain an erection throughout.
I’ll go in stages
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Foreplay was fun, inner critic was at work and I could feel the tension concerning my erection.
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I struggled not to spectator. I tried to detach myself from the end goal and enjoy th moment.
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I reached for the condom and boom. Erection gone. Flacid penis…I’ve been here before. So many times before a condom has usually signalled the end of the line.
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We paused and I asked my partner to lay back. We began a little role playing and rubbing my penis against her…a few minutes later…it was ALIVE. I felt in control
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The sex was great, even more so it felt so good to be connected, intimately and sexually with someone else. It’s been a while.
Point 3 is normally where my journey ends.
The foreplay following point 3 was key, I fully relaxed once the pressure of performance was off. I’d made my partner aware of ED issues and explained I may need some time to feel ready.
By no means have I solved this issue BUT it was a first step in building confidence.
Keep going guys