Recently have had multiple successful experiences which have boosted my confidence massively. Very good feeling. The technique which helped me the most was the use of the inner coach. I started making affirmations to myself and changing the narrative in my mind. I think it really helped to argue my irrational subconscious mind which was holding me back from experiences that are supposed to be enjoyed. Argued back with my rational, conscious critical thinking. Instil confidence in yourself and trust in your body and mind. Tell yourself youāre the man and that you will conquer your mind.
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Great job !!
Your story has really inspired me, where can i learn the technique āinner coachā as i seem to be struggling from this problem too.
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Awesome buddy!!
This is my first day here,
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Iāve been having trouble but I found out my testosterone is really low, but I was married to a woman who wouldnāt give head, Iām getting a divorce for other reasons, but I met a lady that loves doing it so Iām making up for lost time and she hasnāt any trouble getting it up for me, but itās hard keeping it that way so Iām going to get some little blue pills because I reallly enjoy what she does and she likes doing it.
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Good for you!!
Similar situation. Iāve had ED for years and thought it was stress, diabetes, (insert many suspicions hereā¦)
Tried pills. I use a silicone cock ring (really helpsā¦) but same- I canāt last the transition from head/foreplay into intercourse.
Been on this app for 3ish weeks and Iāve discovered a lot about my issue- I have an unhealthy relationship with porn, I am waaay to accustomed to my own grip, I am a spectator & critic to my own sexual activity, and I catastrophise.
I havenāt finished in the presence of a partner for years. Pills, cock ring, booze, no booze, nothing would allow me to stay hard long enough to finish with a partner - no matter what she /we triedā¦.
After 3 weeks here, I all but gave up porn and solo love, (sounds daunting, but easier than I thoughtā¦)
I had a great weekend with new GF (3 months) and just this morning I was able to finish with a handy she was happy to give me! First time Iāve come from a partners stimulation in years.
I did have 10mg of Cialis from last night in me but no silicone ring!!!
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Congrats man!!
It takes a minute.
Spend some time exploring and reading all the community topics. It helps!
Iāve recently made some progress and I feel it is due to stuff Iāve read or been suggested here.
Inner coach is one of the first lessons taught in this program. (It was for meā¦?)
Itās essentially you questioning your inner thoughts that catatstrophise your outcome and doom your hardonā¦ itās deeper than that, and Iām not going to pretend I fully understand it or have mastered itā¦ Iād like to find and revisit the topicā¦
Good luck!!
Good to hearā¦. I like box breathing and meditationā¦ they workā¦ I find the inner coach a bit harder to āget intoā, but now I hear your successā¦ Iāll try more.
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Im so happy
Hi everybody
i also liked the box breathing.
Thatās great