I’m perfectly hard during getting oral just go soft before penetration or shortly after. What causes this?
You’re getting in your head once you know you’re about to have sec thinking am i gonna stay hard or not. Try not to think that and instead be in tune with your senses.
This has happened to me as well. I think it’s attributed with perhaps having a mental association with penetration and a negative experience in the past that may have caused performance anxiety. Another thing I experienced when I was a teen (about 15 yrs old), a virgin, and desperately trying to lose my virginity, is that I placed too much value and emphasis on sex and the penetration and perhaps not enough emphasis on building a real connection with my partner and enjoying an intimate experience with another person.
I’ve experienced this. I’ve found remaining present ‘being’ in the moment as opposed to waiting for sex to happen. For me, this has involved
- Being more communicative during sex
- Telling my partner what I like
- Asking them what they like too
I’ve had this happen many times. I think it’s due to prior negative experiences where I’ve lost my erection during intercourse but not from oral sex. My wife and I are trying to conceive at the moment which probably adds more pressure to intercourse. I find a blindfold / eye mask to be very good for keeping me out of my head.
I get the same way and I think it is because I know I will keep an erection during oral but I have lost my erection so many times during penetration that I start to get nervous and that causes me to lose my erection.
An overflowing surge of anxiety and nervousness takes over when I know the penetration is coming