I’ve been with a new partner for the last month. she is incredibly gorgeous, and has an equally wonderful personality and intelligence. She comes from quite a privileged background. We have hit it off in most domains really well. We have tried to have sex on four occasions, and each time I have had erection problems, sometimes, to the extent that sex is completely impossible, I’ve managed to engage in penetration twice.
My 20 year marriage ended a year and a half ago, and I had no erection problems then. I’ve had a few sexual partners since, and mostly have had no erection problems apart from one other particular night. The girl I was with before this new Partner was quite plain, but the sex we had was wild, and the best of my life. So I came into this new relationship feeling very confident.
I feel that my current problems relate to putting my new Partner way up on a pedestal and feeling some degree of anxiety about my inadequacy, although I must say a lot of this is not particularly conscious. It seems bizarre as she is incredibly beautiful and I feel very turned on by her so it’s strange to not be able to get Recht. She has been very compassionate and understanding, but I fear the relationship won’t progress if this keeps happening
Has anyone else had this experience? Any advice? I’m 48 yrs old and very fit and healthy and am sure it’s psychological.