New found terror

Hi all, just expressing my new journey as a bit of a journalling exercise. I’m 31,
I’ve been ok for the last 2 years, having overcome PE in the past by slowing down, breathing and practising arousal ladder control
In the last month I’ve moved in with my partner and found significantly less time to masturbate or high stress sessions, resulting in quicker sessions and ultimately one where I feel I climaxed too quick. During this time sex was fine.

After that early climax I decided to quit visual porn but realised I couldn’t get hard by myself, though I was thinking about nothing but getting hard the whole time. I’ve since had two occasions with my gf where for the first time ever I lost my erection and it was soul crushing

I’m finding myself very fearful. Scared I can’t masturbate without porn, scared I can’t get it up, scared if I can I’ll finish to quick, all just within a few months. I’m also finding that because I stopped masturbatory, I’m getting or thinking I’m getting extremely sensitive and frustrated, and getting scare what it all means

Nearing the end of the kick-start, hoping I can calm down and slowly bit by bit start feeling myself again. But it’s scary

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I’ve quit porn and solo about 95%. Sometimes I’ll treat myself if I can’t be with gf.
I have death grip and pe as well. I have not finished other than with my own hand in years. That ended a few weeks ago as a result of this app, a couple weeks without solo and a very supportive gf’s handy.
My advice is give up porn and solo play. Try to think of sex as fun. Sex is not just penetration and a big load on her belly. It’s kissing, touching, licking, sucking, teasing, exploring, smelling, relaxing, spasming and if it ends with a load on her belly or a hand- that’s icing on the … well you get it…,

My message is don’t put so much pressure on yourself.

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