Maintaining an erection and/or trouble having an orgasm

Iā€™ve got the most perfect boyfriend ever and thatā€™s the issue I think. Heā€™s just so beautiful I feel a real pressure to perform to make him happy and because of this I get in my head a lotā€¦ I think ā€œdonā€™t lose an erectionā€ and I doā€¦ he asks me to cumā€¦. And I canā€™tā€¦ā€¦ and one or both of these happens all the time. I feel like he gets upset that I donā€™t cum or I lose an erection and he thinks heā€™s the problem. Iā€™ve found myself getting viagra which of course fixes the erection issue but Iā€™m still unable to orgasm 60% of the time. I feel this is so important for intimacy to share that moment together and Iā€™m just unable to do it. Anyone else experience something like this and what did you do?

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Also this never happened at the start of our relationship, weā€™ve always had a great sex life and still do to a degreeā€¦ the more I have fallen in love with him the more I fear losing him the more I overthink and take myself out of the moment and the issues happen

Hey. Very similar for me. I have the best bf and I often get hard, but then my inner critic comes along and I think ā€˜I need to keep this erectionā€™ and then it starts to go soft and there is no recovering it from there! He thinks its him. I know its my head!