I’ve been using sildenafil to help me get erections when with my partner and have been happy that the dosage prescribed to me has been relatively effective. The tricky thing is that I have been anxious about physically escalating things with my partner beyond “second base” and lose my erection when I start to get stuck in my head and worry about whether I am doing things right. This leads to blue balls, which are painful and make getting hard again tougher for me.
Does anyone have experience with this or have an idea for what to do? I am working on staying in the moment and should probably tell my partner when I’m ready to go and involve her more to help keep me hard, but I’m not sure if there’s a different approach that might be better.